We all have relationship regrets. Even soulmate relationships have regrets, where we think of what we could have, or should have, a long time ago. We can’t help but look back on our soulmate relationships and see things we could have done differently. Many of us would love the opportunity to go back in time and do or say things differently. Others wish they could go back in time to not do or say things they did. Soulmate relationship regrets should be lessons we apply going forward. This ensures we don’t make the same mistakes we did in the past. So what are some common soulmate relationship regrets?
TOP 10 SOULMATE RELATIONSHIP REGRETS
1. Being Critical
The first soulmate relationship regret is being too critical. Perhaps we’re too controlling and quick to point out faults at every possible chance. Soulmate relationships are all about learning, growing, and evolving. We have to give our soulmate, and ourselves, the opportunity to make changes over time.
2. Unrealistic Expectations
Having unrealistic expectations of your soulmate is another regret we must face. If we have unrealistic expectations in a relationship, it’s already doomed. It’s impossible to live up to fantasies created in your head. People are not perfect, and neither are soulmate relationships. You both have to do your share and have realistic expectations of one another. Soulmate relationships are not perfect, so do not expect them to be.
3. Too Many Sacrifices
Making too many sacrifices for your soulmate in an effort to keep the relationship going is something many people regret doing. Did you put off your goals of a career, children, marriage or anything else important to you? If so, these are things you may deeply regret. Especially if your soulmate makes too few sacrifices for you and the relationship. Your soulmate is supposed to help bring out the best in you, not hold you back. And by making all those sacrifices, you may can prevent the growth, change and learning your soulmate needs to make a balanced and healthier relationship.
4. Ignoring Red Flags
Ignoring all the red flag warnings about your soulmate relationship is something far too many people regret. In hindsight, they feel those red flags could have saved them a lot of time and heartache. If they’d chosen not to ignore them. Always pay attention to the red flags in your soulmate relationship. Those red flags are always at a crossroads in the relationship. So choose wisely. Stay on the spiritual path and keep your standards high. Don’t lower them for your soulmate. Nothing good comes out of that in the long run.
5. Staying Too Long
Staying in a soulmate relationship when it has become way too toxic is another big cause for regret. Sometimes you have to take a stand and walk away temporarily to stop the bleeding. If your soulmate relationship has gotten to the point where it’s only getting worse, you need to leave for a while. Some soulmate relationship require a break so the soulmates can learn lessons alone. Without the break they simply would not evolved and transformed. Sometimes the only way to make a soulmate relationship better is to part ways. Sometimes it is the ONLY way.
6. Not Standing Up For Yourself
Another top soulmate relationship regrets is not standing up for oneself a long time ago. For some reason, soulmates especially have a tendency to wait way too long to stop bad behavior from continuing in their relationship. They put themselves and the quality of the relationship through so much for so long. But they could have simply nipped it in the bud early on.
7. Being the Runner
If you have been left by a soulmate that pulled a runner on you, don’t despair. So many runners, if not all, have come to deeply regret running away from their soulmate. Although it may have looked differently on social media, they go through a lot of hard lessons when they run. The universe makes sure they do. Regardless of the image they are trying to maintain in public. This is why so many return to their soulmate after some time. Breaking up with someone and ending a relationship is a major regret for some folks.
8. Going too Fast
Moving a soulmate relationship too quickly is another relationship regret. Whirlwind relationships feel good for a short time. But when one or both start to question the connection, or the feelings they have, they freak out. It was too much too soon. And although it felt great, fear kicked in and they fled. Slowing things down helps ease that transition and acceptance of the connection.
9. Money, Money, Money
Bringing personal finances into a soulmate relationship is a very costly mistake and one far too many deeply regret making. When you are in love you want to help your partner if they’re struggling financially. But that may be a lesson they need to learn themselves first. You may be in their life to help them learn how to stand on their own two feet. They may need to learn how to be more financially responsible. Don’t stand in their way of learning such an important lesson or that lesson will haunt your relationship going forward.
Help them help themselves, without spending money. Help them find a job rather than pay their bills. Don’t put yourself in debt thinking they will pay you back if they have no real way of doing so. You don’t need to be the one to invest in their business ideas. Let them earn that money and learn how to save up all by themselves. Help them fix their credit, and learn more about it, so they can get a loan themselves. Of course you believe they will pay you back. But you’re not a bank. And bringing finances into a relationship, soulmate or otherwise can really screw it up. This is a major regret of many people that look back on their relationship.
10. Trusting too Early
Believing and trusting a soulmate too early in the relationship is another main regret. We want to romanticize them. And we tend to focus on their good side, not their bad one. We think just because we’re spiritually connected we should trust them right away and believe everything they say. Wrong. They are human, just like everyone else. And it should take them time to earn your trust and to be worthy of it. If they break that trust, don’t let them slide. Make them earn it back, slowly, over considerable time.