Does his ex cause drama and obstacles in your soulmate relationship? Many soulmates meet when they’re in relationships with someone else. The current relationship can be what keeps soulmates apart, and the stress and despair can be excruciating.
THE EX IS NOT TRULY AN EX
At this point the ex is not an ex. You pray for the day they will end their relationship, and you wait. And you wait. You pray and you cry. And you wait some more. You build up a hatred towards this person. This ex he is involved with. And you feel she is holding your happiness in their hands. He tells you how horrible she treats him. How lucky she is to have your soulmate and she doesn’t appreciate it. You feel bad for your soulmate for being treated so badly in their current relationship. You hope they find the courage to leave the dead-end relationship that’s making them so miserable.
Now here comes your frustration. Why do they stay with someone who makes them unhappy? They could be with you instead! What hold does this witch have over him that causes him to stay? You may even begin to feel as though you will never be together and that you will have to move on, giving up on this relationship completely.
HE FINALLY ENDS IT, BUT….
Then, one day, that relationship is over. You are thrilled!! Finally, the day you have been waiting for! She has been given the boot and you have your chance at happiness. But now you must deal with an ex who could make the break-up or divorce very challenging and contentious. You must be careful not to let that stress affect your relationship with your soulmate.
The relationship with his ex, if toxic, can mean toxic relationship baggage will be coming into YOUR relationship. You’re so thrilled you finally have your soulmate, so you don’t nip bad behavior right away. You must use special care that the relationship with your soulmate does not become as dysfunctional as the one he had with his ex. She may also try to turn his children, friends or family against you. Be careful not to sink to their level, which will only make you look bad. It may take time for the ex to focus their energy elsewhere, but try to ride it out.
The ex may not want to see him happy, and may do everything and anything to cause friction between you. Your soulmate needs to understand she isn’t his problem to deal with alone. If she isn’t bothering you let him handle it. But if she causes him to break dates with YOU or affect your life in any real way, you should be allowed some input. It may be HIS ex, but if she is YOUR problem too, you should be able to deal with it as a couple.
Since he couldn’t handle her when he was in a relationship with her, why would he think he can handle her now? He can’t. Work together as a team in dealing with her. Otherwise you are both playing right into her hands. Every fight you have about her is her victory. Since she is in the past, she needs to stay in the past. His ex should have no control of your daily lives. You both need to let go of her. You need to drop your resentment and hatred and live your lives. And so does he if he has any. This person has wasted enough of your valuable time. Focus on the two of you, and things will turn out just fine.
There will be a follow on article to this post about how exes can affect soulmate relationships. Keep checking back.