Staying in bad soulmate relationships in an attempt to improve things sounds like a good idea on the surface. It makes sense that when you find a rare connection you don’t want to let go. So you hang on for dear life. What doesn’t make sense is staying too long in a bad relationship. And allowing it to be destroyed for good.
FROM GOOD TO BAD TO WORSE
Soulmate relationships can fall apart very quickly. And go from bad to worse without the intention of making things worse. Soul connections are strong ones and emotions usually take over. When your feelings dictate your behavior at heightened levels, bad things can happen. If your feelings are coming from emotions like love, your relationship grows in a productive nurturing way. If heightened levels of negative emotions, such as fear or insecurity, are the ones in charge of behavior, it goes into a tailspin. At this place many soul connections could actually be bad for you.
Of course you love your soulmate and don’t want to lose them. We understand the emotion you have for one another. We understand why you wouldn’t want to give up on a bad soulmate relationship. Having faith in your soulmate relationship, and believing it could get better, we get that too.
JUST BECAUSE YOU’RE SOULMATES?
But we don’t understand why you choose to stay just because you’re soulmates. If you’re going to stay, and put in the work, then do the best to make it work. What you think may be the right things to do or say to make your situation better, may actually be driving it in the opposite direction.
If you’re considering staying please consider you’re obviously doing something WRONG. You can’t be doing everything right if your relationship actually sucks and you’re miserable. It’s easy to see what your soulmate has done to make your relationship bad. But it’s difficult, or impossible, for you to see is what YOU are doing wrong.
You can’t reasonably believe you haven’t been handling your soulmate’s bad decisions and actions correctly. Or they wouldn’t keep doing them. If you were, in most cases, your union would be getting better, not worse. Why do you think your soulmate can bail from your relationship but you can’t? It doesn’t mean you have to move on. It just means you have to move AWAY from the chaos until things calm down.
Sometimes couples need to work on their bad soulmate relationship together. Sometimes the only way to make it work is to take a break from it. What you both do during that break can actually turn your relationship around for the better. Staying in your bad relationship may be the answer, but sometimes it’s not. Sometimes you have to walk away from a bad situation in an effort to save it, and save yourself. A soulmate connection is not meant to destroy you, it’s meant to elevate you.
Staying in a hopeless situation can cause it to sink deeper and deeper into dysfunctional behavior. You need to take another stance. Perhaps your energy would be better placed on fixing yourself, and healing. Start with yourself. Put yourself first, regain your dignity and your strength, so you can really be a productive influence on your bad soulmate relationship.