Soulmate obsession can easily take root due to the strong connection between souls. When people encounter a soulmate, it seems there’s nothing else they think about. The feelings they have for their soulmate take over their moods, their minds and their lives. All they want to do is spend as much time as possible with them.
DARK SIDE OF THE SOULMATE CONNECTION
It’s great for someone to be in love and preoccupied by their soulmate relationship. When your thoughts and emotions towards your soulmate are positive, your mood and feelings will be positive as well. But what happens when you are separated from your soulmate, or are having problems with them? Here is where the negative side of obsessing about a soulmate occurs. This soulmate obsession can become a form of self-torture and one may experience a true dark night of the soul.
Will they ever come back? Will they ever change? Are they moving on? Have they forgotten about me? Are they with someone else? Do they still love me? Are we really soulmates? These are the types of questions soulmates obsess about when they separate or had a bad fight.
Those thoughts lead to obsessive behaviors. They will text constantly, getting more and more upset when their texts or calls are not returned. That can lead to stalking a soulmate via social media or driving by their workplace, hang outs, or home. Does any of this lead to anything good? No. It does not. This kind of obsessive thinking just winds a person up until their judgement is severely impaired. And then what they do or say often makes things much worse.
GETTING A BETTER PERSPECTIVE
Any obsession needs to be put into perspective. Obsessing gets you nowhere. It’s guessing and it gives you no real answers and no real clues. The more you obsess about how they’re feeling, you feel anxious and miserable. The more you obsess about your soulmate’s thoughts, the less you can think about anything else. Soulmate obsession is like torturing yourself with little or no reward.
Instead of letting your obsession for your soulmate get out of hand, try to get it under control. Stop talking about soulmates (and yours in particular) to your friends. Focus on your life, not just what’s going on with you and your soulmate. Don’t stay alone, but be with friends, family and anyone who is supportive. Challenge your mind with work or anything that makes you think. It may be difficult at first, but if your mind is busy with other things and people, your obsession with your soulmate dissipates.