Soulmate loves triangles involve a lot of melodrama. Then again, any relationship involving more than two people usually does. What exactly is a soulmate love triangle? There are two main types of soulmate love triangles. The first scenario is you and your soulmate love one another but one of you has, or is developing, feelings for someone else who reciprocates those feelings. It is not a love triangle when you or your soulmate has feelings or an interest in someone who doesn’t have the same feelings. So, if you found yourself falling for your married co-worker, but your married co-worker does not have feelings towards you, this is not a love triangle. Soulmate love triangles only exists when all three have shared romantic feelings.
The second example of a soulmate love triangle would be when you find yourself competing for your soulmate’s affections. An example of this would be if you and your soulmate keep breaking up because of an ex who keeps coming into the picture. When the ex causes your soulmate to break up with you so they can get back together. But then your soulmate comes back to you, and you have on/off relationship. This classifies as a love triangle.
In this last example though, more often than not, love is really not involved. Instead of really having love for both you and the ex, they use their ex as a form of soulmate sabotage. They don’t really love their ex, although it would seem to you they really must, otherwise why would they keep going back to them, allowing them to cause problems between the two of you. In situations such as this, it really isn’t about the ex. It is about their inability to face the lessons they have to learn to have a healthy relationship with you. Instead they drag you into a dysfunctional nightmare like they had with their ex.
No one wants to find themselves in a soulmate love triangle, because they are never fun. So how can a person avoid it? First of all, don’t get into one. If you are aware your soulmate is involved with someone else, wait it out. Create a boundary upfront stating the relationship with you will not continue romantically until their other relationship ends. Yes, it is hard, but it is much easier than being in a soulmate love triangle, that’s for sure. Dating a soulmate before they are divorced will be an emotional roller coaster.
It also creates the basis of a respectful, honest, mature relationship, as opposed to starting out with deceit, lies, cheating, and all the other bad behaviors that come with it. It also helps both soulmates learn their lessons right away, and create change in their life right away for the better, rather than add to what is already going wrong. It may be that you are already in a love triangle situation, and need to either remove yourself from the equation or the other party has to go. Until the relationship becomes a duo, rather than a trio, their will always be friction, hurt feelings, and resentment.