Abandonment issues are common in soulmate relationships because emotions, as well as fears, run higher than normal. Almost every emotion felt between soulmates seems to go to the extreme. When soulmates love, they love deeply. When soulmates fight, it can be extreme.
HOW ABANDONMENT ISSUES RUIN SOULMATE RELATIONSHIPS
This is especially true if they fail to learn the life lessons they agree to learn. This also applies to their fears and insecurities. If either of you have abandonment issues, they will make a negative impact on the relationship. The progression of the relationship may slow to a crawl Or it may come to a complete standstill if abandonment fears and issues are not addressed and dealt with.
People with abandonment issues fear their romantic partner will end the relationship. Because of this fear, they often shy away from relationships completely. They may date a lot of people, but they don’t allow anyone to get too close. If someone meets a soulmate who keeps them at arm’s length, they could very well have abandonment issues. Even though it’s difficult for soulmates to stay away from one another, those with abandonment issues find a way to create space between themselves and their soulmate out of necessity.
POWERFUL CONNECTIONS ARE SCARY
Usually when someone has abandonment issues they have been abandoned in previous relationships. They remember the pain of abandonment and will do everything in their power not to experience it again. When they encounter a soulmate, and feel the intense emotions, it terrifies them. Instead of looking at those emotions in a positive way, their perception is a negative one.
They realize they have feelings for someone in a way never before experienced. But they also see a potential to be hurt very deeply. So they run for the hills. They do whatever they can to avoid the soulmate connection and potential emotional trauma that comes with future abandonment. They will deny the connection exists and that feelings exist. When your soulmate has abandonment issues you may feel the connection is all in your mind since they deny the way they feel about you. You may think you are the only one with those feelings.
IT’S SAFER TO BE WITH SOMEONE WHO ISN’T AVAILABLE
Not all people with abandonment issues are single and soulmates may already be in relationships prior to meeting. Does that mean they don’t have abandonment issues? No, it does not. Some folks with abandonment issues pursue relationships where they won’t get hurt. And will choose someone who makes them feel safe. They choose someone without a powerful soulmate connection even though the other person has strong feelings for them. They are in the position of power and have no fear of being dumped. If their partner dumps them, they wouldn’t be hurt since they don’t care about them. It would be a blow to the ego but not to the heart itself.
On the other hand, a soulmate can hurt them. And they fear losing that soulmate connection. So now the soulmate is at a crossroads. Do they give up the safety of their prior relationship and run the risk of getting hurt by a strong soul connection? That is a leap of faith many people in this situation are afraid to take. Their fear is genuine and they may not be willing to put themselves at risk. But, of course, some do.
All soulmate relationships come with obstacles, and abandonment issues can be a real challenge. The more you and your soulmate understand these issues, the better chance you have of overcoming them. If you have abandonment issues and fears, perhaps this soulmate relationship came into your life to help you heal it once and for all.