Security in soulmate relationships is not guaranteed. As a matter of fact, security in relationships may actual be one of the lessons you need to learn.
WHERE DOES YOUR INSECURITY COME FROM?
If you feel insecure with your soulmate you have stop and think for a minute. Is your soulmate actually giving you good reasons to feel that way? Or is it your mind and emotions are creating drama within you? Either way, here is where the lesson comes into play.
If your soulmate is behaving or speaking in a way that is creating a lack of security for you, then it is time to address it. Do not let your insecurities stop you from creating change. Don’t be worried that telling them they need to correct their behavior or their language towards you will make you lose them. You may even need to pull back on the energy you contribute to the relationship until they do.
If you don’t, it would be crazy to think that they are going to stop and change this on their own. They won’t. Don’t allow them to ruin your relationship by making it a dysfunctional one. If you enable them to treat you badly and disrespect your connection, then both of you are going off your spiritual path. Nothing good is going to come of it.
Take that faith you have now, before they make you even more insecure and do something about it. One of you has to stop it, and it is up to you. This is your lesson to learn. To have faith instead of fear.
IT’S NOT THEIR JOB TO MAKE YOUR SECURITY ISSUES
On the other hand, let’s say your soulmate is doing or saying nothing that should make you question the security in your relationship. It is not up to your soulmate to heal whatever wound you have that causes this. That is not their job, but yours. Their presence in your life is not going to make a past wound heal. You can’t use it as an excuse to torment them with your insecurity either.
It is not up to them to keep proving time and time again that your relationship is secure. If you do not give them the credit they deserve for proving to you that you have nothing to fear, that is not fair to them. Your issues are yours. Do not take it out on them. They may understand and/or sympathize with you, but not to the point where they enable you. Work through your issues yourself, because it is your lesson to learn. Before you drive your soulmate away, seek a therapist or counselor if need be.
It makes sense at the beginning of a relationship to question it’s security. But there comes a time when there is no longer an excuse to have a stable, secure relationship. If you don’t, it’s time to address the problem instead of ignoring it.