Is life incomplete without your soulmate? Can you even begin to imagine life without a soulmate? The concept of soulmates emerged in Plato’s Symposium. In theory the idea of everyone having another half of themselves has been around since ancient Greece. In recent however, it began to take on a more romantic undertone with the implication that we will never be whole without our other half.
Many people feel if they don’t meet their soulmate that they must resign themselves to a life without joy, love or happiness. They want to know how they can meet their soulmate. Some may obsess over exactly when they will meet them. They feel that they will only find that happiness once they have found a soulmate. Union with the soulmate will release them from a lifetime of doom, gloom and misery. Isn’t that a very high expectation to place on someone?
From a personal spiritual growth perspective, the concept of being complete without your other half is the challenge of our lifetimes. To find your true romantic soul partner you have to be whole yourself. To be with your soulmate you need to be a complete person before a successful soulmate relationship can be defined. So essentially we are all stuck in a Catch-22. You want your soulmate to complete you, but you can’t find them because you are not whole as you are.
So what is the solution? To work on yourself to become whole.
Focus on Yourself
If you want your soulmate to appear in your life the best way to make that happen is to work on your own fears, phobias and insecurities. Do you have abandonment issues that need to be addressed? By now you will have already experienced a series of relationships, both good and bad. What did you learn from them? How did you handle the breakups? Did you wallow in misery attaching your happiness only to being with the person who ended your relationship? Or did you grieve a little, accept it and move on?
If you were unable to handle these relationship issues in a non-soulmate relationship, we have to say you’re not ready for a soulmate. Relationships provide us valuable lessons, not only about relationships but about ourselves. We need to take what we learned from that relationship, assimilate it into the core of who we are, so that when it comes time for the next one, we will avoid the same mistakes.
If you are feeling lost because you have not found your soulmate, go out and have fun! Take classes, accept social invitations, learn to sail and do anything else that brings YOU joy. Do it for you, do it for yourself. Do the things that make YOU happy. Complete yourself! By shifting that thing within you that makes you feel incomplete and without wholeness, you will start filling in the gaps in your own energy so your soulmate can materialize.
A potential soulmate partner will not be attracted to someone who is sad, melancholy or gloomy. When you are out and about walk with your head lifted. Smile and radiate confidence . Lift your energy and you will lift your vibration. In order for your true romantic soulmate to enter your life your vibrational energy needs to be high. Release any emotional baggage and other stuff tying you to the past, or a past relationship, that you have been carrying around with you. Let it go. Hauling that stuff around with you can make you weary and miserable.
When you are feeling happy, confident and complete, you stand a much greater chance of finding your soulmate. On their own, soulmate relationships come with major challenges and you will need to be at your BEST when you do find each other. Soulmate relationships are in our lives to teach us about ourselves through personal growth and spiritual lessons. You have to be ready to deal with what the Universe throws at you after you meet your soulmate. It is better to be in as whole as you can be when you find them.
Your soulmate really does not complete you, nor you them, in spite of what Tom Cruise said in “Jerry Maguire”. No one completes anyone. You need to be complete and whole on your own in order for your soulmate relationship to come into your life.