Can you really be friends with benefits with a soulmate? Sadly, this is true for the many people who have a friends with benefits situation with a soulmate. This is not what the universe wants from their connection. A lower level relationship, that is basically a booty call, is not what a spiritual connection should be used for. A soulmate connection is one that is supposed to make both partners evolve into better versions of themselves. So how would a friends with benefits relationship do that? It wouldn’t.
IF IT’S ABOUT SEX THAT’S ALL IT WILL EVER BE
You get out of a soulmate relationship what you put into it. If you keep it on a strictly sexual level, sex is all you are going to get out of it. If you want your soulmate to have faith in your connection, then you must have that faith as well. You both deserve more than a friends with benefits situation. Don’t think that over time it will evolve into move. Situations like this evolve into trust issues, insecurities, disrespect, and tons of other negative things. Don’t let things like that enter and grow within your relationship. The work you will have to do to fix that could take years. And it will be very, very painful.
It is understandable you may be afraid if you take away the friends with benefits you will be left with nothing. You may feel it is better to have something with your soulmate than to have nothing. You are so wrong. A soulmate connection is both a blessing and curse. The joy a soulmate relationship can give you is immeasurable. So is the pain a soulmate relationship can give you. The outcome depends on what you bring to the table and what you allow into the relationship.
YOU’RE ALL IN BUT THEY AREN’T
If you allow yourself to be used, disrespected, and treated like a booty call, don’t expect a positive experience. The sex may be amazing. But the hurt, disappointment, anger and tears will not make the sex worth it in the end. If you want it all, which is what all soulmates can have, then put your all into it. And don’t allow your soulmate to just put sex into it. Either they are all in, or they are all out.
Let’s be real, they may not want any strings to be attached to your situation. But you do. So you are all in. You’re just going along with this because you’re hoping they will be all in someday. But where is the incentive for them to give you more if you’re already giving them everything? It simply isn’t there. So until you find a way to give them an incentive to change, they won’t.
If you want a real relationship with your soulmate, then insist they take you out. Go somewhere, anywhere, instead of just to one another’s house. If they won’t agree to do things together socially, then don’t do anything with them sexually. An environment of intimacy needs to be created. Without spending quality time together and sharing experiences together (rather than just sex) a relationship can’t grow. You need more than sex to build a foundation together.
You both need to give your soulmate relationship a chance to become something more, something spiritual, and something of quality. In order to do that, you have to take it to another level. You need to know that if you do the right thing, instead of engaging in the wrong kind of relationship, the universe will have your back.