Soulmate relationships can be dysfunctional relationships. Soulmates are often portrayed as meeting, falling instantly in love, and living happily ever after. In reality, soulmate relationships can often become dysfunctional relationships. Primarily, due to the intensity of emotions, chemistry and the soulmate connection, logic and fair play can fly out the window. When emotions run high, they can often spiral out of control, this is when dysfunctional behaviors and patterns emerge. So how can you keep your soul mate relationship from becoming dysfunctional?
First and foremost you must try to keep your emotions regarding your soul mate in check. These emotions will be intensely positive when things are going well, but can easily turn intensely negative when things turn bad between the two of you. For example, after meeting your soulmate and being blissfully happy for several months, your soulmate pulls a disappearing act and totally retreats away from the relationship and from you. They won’t return phone calls, emails, texts or social media pings. They go completely silent. It is understandable that you will be anxious and upset, but this is dysfunctional soulmate behavior. When a soulmate withdraws, the other soulmate has to prevent themselves from going nuts. When the soul mate returns is the crucial point. If you forgive your soulmate and allow them back into your life too easily, because you fear losing them again, you are actually creating a dysfunctional pattern. This can lead to your soulmate randomly disappearing over and over again. Because you allowed their dysfunctional behavior without real consequences, they will do it over and over again.
By doing that, your fears regarding your soulmate will grow exponentially. Your fear of losing them permanently makes you more lenient and you can expect more dysfunctional behavior from your soulmate. You soulmate, on the other hand, has ZERO fear of losing you. You have shown them they can get away with their dysfunctional behavior and that you are willing to take them back every time. Now your soulmate relationship is a dysfunctional mess. If you have found yourself in a dysfunctional soulmate relationship, look back at the bad behaviors of your soulmate. Now look at how you handled them. The time has come to change the way you handle your soulmate or your dysfunctional relationship will only continue to get worse.
Soulmate relationships are supposed to teach lessons. If you are not willing to assist your soul mate in learning those lessons, the relationship may be doomed. Not all soulmate relationships stand the test of time. Why? Because the bond that is supposed to bring out the best in them often brings out the worst in them. It is because of this that a dysfunctional soulmate relationship reaches the end of the line. When both parties embrace and accept the gifts that their soulmate brings, instead of abusing, taking advantage of it or taking it for granted, all is well. If they do not, chaos erupts. The universe brings soulmates together, but they leave it up to the two of you to make it work. When you see dysfunctional behavior begin to grow in your soulmate relationship, nip it in the bud before it ruins this special soulmate connection.