Can you fix a dysfunctional relationship? There are many factors that determine the answer to that question.
But not all dysfunctional relationships need to stay broken.
The first step is to recognize that you are in a dysfunctional relationship.
It doesn’t matter that you have a spiritual connection between you. A soul connection won’t fix a dysfunctional relationship all by itself. That, is the responsibility of the two parties in the relationship.
THE FIRST STEP IS ACKNOWLEDGEMENT
Quite frankly, is surprises us, how many folks believe they’re in a healthy relationship due to their connection alone. There is a myth that spiritual relationships can’t be dysfunctional because the universe would never create that.
The universe would not create a dysfunctional relationship. Now that part is true. But the universe only supplies the connection. And not the quality of the relationship itself.
The couple took that connection to create a relationship out of it. If your relationship is way out of control, without boundaries or respect, it is a dysfunctional relationship.
A stable relationship has boundaries, two way communication, mutual respect, and stability. A dysfunctional relationship has the opposite. When you realize your relationship has drama, chaos and unhealthy dynamics it’s time to accept you’re in a dysfunctional relationship.
Once you acknowledge you’re living a dysfunctional mess, you need to see what you can do to turn it around. Forget about waiting for your soulmate to have an epiphany of some sort. Some dysfunctional relationships can’t be saved because it reaches the point of no return. Don’t wait for yours to get to that point before you do something about it.
BRING AN END TO THE CRAZINESS
Stop fighting with your soulmate for every little thing. Choose your battles wisely. And please consider a counselor to help resolve issues between the two of you.
Don’t allow resentments and old trauma to destroy the relationship. If you’re really willing to give the relationship a chance, you have to let go of the past and past behaviors. No more repeating the same mistakes.
Take control and begin to create change in your relationship instead of waiting for change to happen.
Don’t make excuses because it’s a soul connection. A soul connection is no excuse for allowing yourself to be treated horribly, or to treat your partner horribly.
Stop stooping to lower behavior. And instead, empower yourself to get the relationship you want.
Just say no to being treated like a doormat, taken for granted, or verbally abused.
Stop waiting for them to decide to commit. It may be time for an ultimatum. You may have to let go of them until they are willing to commit.
Don’t obsess when your relationship will go to the next level. You have to fix things first. Unhealthy relationships don’t go to the next level, they go backwards. So until you fix it, sure, you could move in together or get married, but it won’t change anything. (If anything it will make things worse.)
Just because you’re in a soulmate relationship you don’t have to endure it when things go south. So many times folks sacrifice their own personal happiness by staying because they’re with their soulmate.
Some dysfunctional relationships can change for the better. If yours is one of them, what are you waiting for? Haven’t you suffered enough?
Sophia Elise and Lady Sarah will help you take control to turn your dysfunctional relationship around. We will see if anything can to be done to fix it. Instead of acting out, take action. If you want things to change in your relationship you have to take the first step.
Originally posted on 06/11/2013 @ 11:14 am