Dating a soulmate after a divorce can reveal baggage from past relationships. If you or your soulmate had a loveless or problematic marriage, you may bring those fears into your current relationship. When people marry they don’t think their marriage will end in divorce. But it did. And now that they have met the love of their life they’re afraid it may be too much too soon.
AFRAID TO TRUST THE CONNECTION
Although their heart has run away with itself, fears remain in their mind. What if this relationship grows distant or ends like their last one? Issues such as these are bound to rear their ugly head if one or both soulmates marriages end in divorce. It can even happen if the past relationships were very emotionally involved or long-lasting, without a marriage.
When you’re dating a soulmate after a divorce, you may have to deal with soulmate sabotage in an effort to keep the relationship from progressing. The closer the couple becomes, the greater the fear of getting hurt. The connection is so strong, and the feelings run so deep. But there is that feeling of it being too good to be true. They are waiting for the shoe to drop, and the wait is excruciating.
DON’T FORGET THE KIDS
That is not the only challenges when you’re dating a soulmate after a divorce. There could be children involved. And mixing children into new relationships can be tricky. Even adult children may not like the idea of their parent seeing someone new.
There could be dysfunctional relationships with their children. Be sure to set some personal boundaries so you can manage your relationships with both your children and your partner. Make sure those relationships are both in a good place before mixing the two. Or you can expect nothing but disaster. It will be a transition bringing a new relationship into your family dynamics. But the healthier your relationships, the smoother the transition will be. At first, keep the relationships separate, and don’t be in such a rush to force everyone together.
Let your soulmate relationship develop organically. Enjoy dating your soulmate. Too many people jump from dating right into a relationship. And in doing so rob themselves of a magical, romantic experience. When a soulmate couple is dating it’s the most romantic time of their relationship. They enjoy getting to know each other, missing their soulmate when they are not there and the butterflies experience during their dates. Why rush through all of that? Enjoy the newness, the excitement, and the getting to know one another journey. Don’t talk too much about your exes and your past relationships.
We know it is hard, but try to keep the relationship from moving way too fast. After experiencing the pain of divorce, rushing into another serious long-term relationship can make someone panic and freak out big time. Some people who have been divorced vow to never marry again. But you know what they say about soulmates : Never say never!!