Mixed signals only add to the confusion of the soulmate experience. Soulmate relationships are hard enough to navigate as it is. So when you toss in mixed signals between them, things can go really crazy.
SO WHY THE MIXED SIGNALS?
Sometimes the reason soulmates send each other mixed signals is not intentional. They don’t mean to drive their soulmate crazy or put them on edge. But they’re trying to work through their own acceptance of the soul connection. No one is fully prepared to experience a soulmate connection, regardless of what they think. There is no previous experience to really draw from or learn in advance how to navigate the soulmate journey.
Talking to friends or family is not really an option. If they haven’t a soulmate experience themselves how could they really understand what you’re going through? If you already think you may be losing your mind you may be afraid to share what you’re going through with fear of judgement from others. Many people are trying to work out exactly what they’re going through with their soulmate connection so they can’t properly articulate to someone else what they are feeling and thinking.
THE ADJUSTMENT PERIOD
There is an adjustment period that starts when soulmates meet. Although it starts for both at the same time, but they fully accept their connection at different times. This is one of the main reasons for mixed signals between soulmates. When a soulmate is going through the adjustment period, they often flip flop between embracing the connection and rejecting the connection.
So one day (or one minute, or one hour, depending on the individual involved) a soulmate may be going with the flow, and sending out positive soulmate signals. They are talking about their emotions, being very open, discussing the future of the relationship, and how happy they are. Then the next day, it’s completely different.
They may seem withdrawn both in their emotions and with their words. Where yesterday they spoke of how they want to spend every waking moment together, now they are saying they may not have the time to see one another for a while. Did the feelings change? Did what they want change? No. When you’re on the receiving end of mixed signals like this, the first thing you need to do is not panic. Don’t let the mixed signals you are receiving have a domino affect on you.
THEIR FEELINGS DIDN’T CHANGE IN AN INSTANT
Understand first that feelings don’t change for anyone overnight. So let that go immediately. Second, although it is tough, keep in mind this is a process your soulmate has to work though. They are not doing this to hurt you. But they’re doing it because of an internal struggle. It’s hard for some people to see a side of themselves they didn’t know existed. They may have never heard of soulmates before or believed in them. They have no one to ask for guidance.
How did they go from someone who can handle their emotions so well to someone who’s emotions have gone off the charts and are out of control? Well, they used to be very cautious, because they’ve been hurt before. And they need relationships to develop at a slower pace so they can build trust over time. Now they feel they are head over heels with someone they just met and that is scary, and uncomfortable.
They go back and forth between thoughts and feelings of “this is great” to “this is the weirdest, scariest thing that has ever happened to me”. So of course you’re going to get plenty of mixed signals from them. You’re going through your own acceptance journey so this can really throw you for a loop.
Please keep in mind that your journey of acceptance is yours, and theirs in for them to go through. You can’t carry them along or force acceptance on them. They will not be able to deny the connection between the two of you forever. Regardless of how many mixed signals they send you, they will reach a point where they give in and give up fighting it. But all soulmates reach a point where they accept the connection between the two of them is real. What they both decide to do about it is another story.