“My soul mate broke my heart, how can I move on?” is one of the top questions we are asked. If you’ve dealt with soulmate heartbreak one too many times, you too many feel the need to put a stop to it at once. Now that makes perfect sense. But how they want to put a stop to it often does not.
MY SOULMATE BROKE MY HEART SO I AM BREAKING THE CONNECTION
Everyone is different and so are all soulmate relationships. So there isn’t one answer that will work for all soulmate couples. Usually folks initially try to find a way to break their soulmate connection and move on. Good luck with that. You didn’t create it. And you can’t break it. But you can learn to deal with it differently. You can also change your perception of the connection to give you a new perspective.
If your soulmate broke your heart, it doesn’t mean you have to break the connection. And if you focus on the connection, you’ll just be spinning your wheels and getting nowhere. So how can you begin to heal your broken heart?
By breaking the pattern, instead of the connection.
The first step is to look at what caused the heartbreak. Did you give them the opportunity to do it? Let’s say you have a soulmate who is a runner. They come in and out of your life and come and go as they please. And this situation is devastating to you each time it occurs. You have dealt with it so many times and can’t bear the thought of it happening again. Because it hurts too much. So, your first thought is to break the connection. And then they can’t leave you heartbroken.
Bad idea. Look at the situation again.
Yes, they hurt you badly. But you give them the opportunity to do it again every time you take them back. Now look at the pattern of their behavior. Your soulmate leaves, comes back, then leaves again. This is what they do. And this pattern is now part of your relationship, even though you never wanted it to be. You have contributed to this dynamic because you were part of it.
So, the next time your soulmate leaves, look at it realistically. Do you think they will return again? More than likely they will, because we’re creatures of habit and we repeat our patterns. Why would you think it would be different this time? Releasing your fear of them not returning lessens the pain and hurt when they leave. Now when your soulmate follows their pattern and returns, what are you going to do this time?
Look at your pattern of behavior.
Your soulmate sees your patterns, and so should you. They base their patterns on yours. And they can clearly how you’re going to react. They know you won’t find anyone else while they’re in runner mode. And they know you’ll take them back. So why would they change their pattern? They wouldn’t. But if you change your pattern they’ll have to change or adapt theirs.
So, instead of feeling bad because your soulmate broke your heart again, promise yourself you’ll do things differently from now on. This will be much more productive than trying to break your soulmate connection or moving on without them. If you’re willing to take them back when they’re ready to come back, then you really don’t want to move on. You really just want your soulmate to come back.
It’s so hard to ease the pain when a soulmate breaks your heart. But instead of just focusing on the pain, look for ways to minimize the risk of it happening again. Look at the role you may have played and what you can do differently going forward. This can help heal your broken heart and mend the relationship as well. Even if your soulmate breaks up with you, you can survive it. Especially if reuniting is in the future.