Instability seems to be a common problem in soulmate relationships due to the challenging nature these relationships often bring into our lives. If you are in soulmate relationship, or have been in one in the past, we can pretty much guarantee there was instability at some point in your relationship.
One of the most common ways a soulmate relationship becomes unstable is when one or both partners are having issues with the connection. Many people find it weird and unsettling to be that bonded to another person in ways they have never experienced. The feelings and synchronicities are unexplainable, perhaps even foreign, because they are unlike anything felt before.
It is hard to deal with these feelings at levels never before experienced. It makes many question their own sanity. So it is easy to see why soulmates often resort to simply denying the connection exists. The instability will remain until that soulmate works through and accepts the connection and the foundation of the relationship suffers.
More often than not when a soulmate is in denial, they often become a runner. Everything can be going perfectly between the two of you but the soulmate will still be a runner. In some cases they will drop off the face of the earth, out of the blue, without even a warning or conversation. Communication ceases, they won’t see you and may even can block you from social media. So when the soulmate relationship should be building a strong foundation, the resisting of the bond creates instability, causing the relationship to go into soulmate limbo. Please check our other article, Soulmate Limbo Sucks, to gain some insight in how to deal with this issue.
Soulmates are often very fiery, and both their love and their arguments will be infused with passion. The levels of love and affection are often matched by the levels of acting out and fighting. Disagreeing on such levels also causes a lot of instability in the relationship. They can do things to each other that you would swear people who love each other could possibly do. On the flip side, they forgive each other for behaviors that others would seem unforgivable.
They may themselves be struggling with the intensity of the relationship so it’s very possible they understand what the other is going through. Since many do not want to lose their soulmate, they let them get away with anything and everything. They are afraid if they take a stand and insist they air out their differences in more healthy ways, their soulmate may leave. What they don’t seem to get, no matter how many times we explain it, is that if they allow bad behavior without consequences, it will be recurring, and become much worse.
This causes the relationship stagnate and this instability does a lot of damage. What they are trying to save they are actually causing to deteriorate. Their worst fear, losing their soulmate, is going to manifest because they won’t do the right thing for themselves and the relationship.
When a relationship is unhealthy it gets to a point where it is mostly negative and often ends. In every relationship the couple is supposed to set healthy boundaries and enforce them. If they do not, the relationship gets more and more dysfunctional and unstable. It has no choice but to eventually come crashing down around them. Drama, acting out, cheating, game playing, and staying in a previous relationship are all causes of soulmate instability. Those bad behaviors and actions need to be changed or the relationship will never be the harmonious one they both know it can be.
A synchronicity occurs when one of life’s little meaningful coincidences that are placed in your path. I remember once I needed to find someone to come and repair a few shingles on my roof. I had no idea who to call. While driving I had to stop at an intersection and stopped just to my right was a truck with an advertising magnet on the side with the name and phone number of an independent contractor who did roof repair. I just smiled, grabbed my phone and stored the number, grateful that what I needed was placed in my path. When we are aware enough to see them, we see our lives are filled with meaningful coincidences, synchronicity, we have created in the spiritual to manifest in the physical.
A synchronicity is created when people, places or events are brought into our lives to help us evolve. A synchronicity can highlight something going on in your life where you may need assistance. And I needed help with my roof and I trusted that they Universe people put the right person in my path at the right time. He fixed the roof for a reasonable rate and I have never had a problem with it. Was he a soulmate? No. He was just placed in my path at the right time to take care of a need I had expressed to the Universe and the delivered.
There are times though when someone could confuse a synchronicity or as a soulmate relationship. For example, lets say you meet someone who really touches your soul. You have a lot in common, like the same music and have some other things unique to your relationship. This person is in and out of your life like one giant boomerang. There is no contact for a year or so, then BAM! you cross paths again at Starbucks, the grocery store, the local flea market, or wherever.
This person seems to keep coming back into your life over and over again. You being to feel a destiny with them, of course you would, because they keep coming back like a bad weed in the garden. But is this a soulmate relationship? Or just one synchronicity after another to keep you stuck on the karma wheel? More than likely it is just a string of meetings brought together by synchronicity. Your paths keep crossing because you do have something to resolve with this person who keeps disappearing from your life. Do you let them cross your boundaries when they reappear in your life? Are you so happy to see them you ignore the fact they disappeared numerous times without reason, explanation or closure? If so, perhaps it is time to shut the roller coaster down. Perhaps the reason they keep reappearing is because you have allowed them but the lesson is to shut the door once and for all so you can grow and evolve in a new direction and make yourself truly available for a soulmate relationship to enter your life.
For example – you meet someone who interests you and touches your soul. Through synchronicity – that person seems to come into your life over and over again. You begin to feel a destiny with that person. You begin to think with your heart instead of your head as you imagine a connection to them because you keep crossing paths. You connect with that person on some level, certainly, but not at the soulmate level, even though there is karma there. There is a karmic lesson to be realized certainly but not one that will involve your heart, mind and soul to the depth a soulmate life lesson will.
In some cases the karma between the two people is positive – but in many cases you have attracted that person into your life for a learning lesson whether you are aware of it or not. You may not have a soulmate contract or soulmate agreement with that person, and therefore not officially soulmates, but you have them in your life for a reason.
Sometimes we can be confused as to whether a strong connection we feel to someone is a karmic relationship, soulmate relationship or just synchronicity. Do you wonder if a current relationship in your life is a synchronicity or a true soulmate relationship? Perhaps it is a karmic relationship you have with someone but unsure of the nature of the karma that exists between the two of you. Stop the confusion now with a call to either Lady Sarah or Sophia Elise who are both soulmate, twin flame, karmic relationship specialists. They will help you see past the confusion, find the lesson in all of this, and empower and encourage you to take the right course of action for the ultimate evolution of your soul.