Valentine’s Day without a soulmate can make many people feel depressed, especially if they have been single for a while or have recently ended a relationship. They see happy couples all around them, ads for Valentine gifts all over the media, and wonder why they are spending Valentine’s Day without a soulmate. They wonder how many more Valentine’s Days will pass before a soulmate enters their life and they no longer spend Valentine’s Day alone.
It can be both frustrating and depressing. You have gotten your career on track, taken good care of yourself, have your finances in order and feel the only thing missing in your life is a stable soulmate relationship. Well where the hell are they? What is taking so long? Did they get lost?
As we have discussed numerous times, soulmate relationships are not just about romance, but learning life lessons and growing as individuals as well as a couple. You may believe 1000% the time is right to meet your soulmate but the universe may not. Being unable to control if and when your soulmate shows up is a hard pill to swallow. People do not like waiting in general, especially when we feel we are ready to go. When a soulmate does not show up for you, you feel as if the universe is abandoning or ignoring you. Some people wind up very angry and bitter about it and end up being angry and God or the Universe.
It doesn’t seem fair and you don’t think its fair. You see the commercials of blissful couples celebrating Valentine’s Day together and want to smash the television to pieces. The stores have been flooded, in many cases, since the day after Christmas advertising red, white and pink goodies for their loved ones. Even go to the grocery shopping is not a safe haven for your emotions as their entrances are flooded with Valentine’s Day goodies, flowers and stuffed animals. There seems to be no escape.
All of this over the top, in your face, Valentine’s Day over-commercialism, makes many people feel like they are a loser, not good enough or being punished in some way. The way to deal with all of this nonsense is by putting it into perspective. First of all, the universe doesn’t create soulmate connections for the sake of Valentine’s Day. Valentine’s Day was created in Victorian times, not by the universe, so it really is not their concern. The universe is also not here to be Cupid and just put together blissfully happy couples. That’s not really their job.
Soulmate relationships are usually tumultuous, and in many ways a series of tests. These tests are HARD. And if/until both soulmates pass them, there is a lot of drama and a lot less romance. You have to earn the happily every after. Valentine’s Day is often referred to as a retail holiday which has nothing to do with a spiritual connection. Remember it only lasts for 24-hours, and most of the people receiving Valentine’s Day tokens, gifts or flowers from their ‘loved ones’ are doing so out of obligation, threats, and the over-commercialization of a day that Hallmark rakes in the $$$- cha-ching!!!
For soulmates that get it right, every day is Valentine’s Day. Don’t lose hope, just don’t focus on the Valentine’s Day you may be spending alone, because there is always next year. Keep your chin up and keep the faith that one day you will be with your soulmate on Valentine’s Day! These years, do something to special for yourself and celebrate YOU!
Soulmates don’t grow on trees. Of course most people would like to meet their soulmate, but many don’t understand soulmates are not exactly easy to find. First of all, they are not everywhere, you can’t just go pick one up at your local Walmart. Your soulmate is one grain of sand on a huge beach, so of course, if you decide to put your energy into finding yours, it could take a while.
The universe created a soulmate for you, and will, of course, create the time and place for you to get together and begin your journey. Finding a soulmate can become frustrating because many people expect the universe to create a soulmate for them, but they want to decide where, when and how they meet. It doesn’t work like that. It is not up to you, it is up to the universe.
Think about it, many people don’t believe in soulmates, so it stands to reason they are not looking for them. Does this mean they will never meet a soulmate? Of course not. They are going to meet a soulmate regardless of whether they want to or not. This is why so many people feel blind sided when they meet one.
They were not looking for them and they probably didn’t even believe soulmates could exist. Their soulmate often manifests in their lives at a very inconvenient time for them. Why? Because the universe has its reasons, and when they want soulmates to come together, they put them together. There is always a reason why soulmates meet when they do. It causes both soulmates to take a look at what is not working for them in their lives.
One, or both, of the soulmates could be in previous relationships that have run their course and must come to an end. It could be to take a different career path, or to focus more, or less, on their current job/career. Another reason is to break bad relationship habits, otherwise they will just wind up in one dysfunctional relationship after another.
Friends and family may have created a toxic environment and the soulmate enters to help them break these ties that are holding them back from happiness and their life purpose. So when a soulmate enters, something has to exit. These exits, whether they are people, or ways of thinking or behaving, bring tons of drama and resistance with them. In many cases, only a soulmate connection can give each individual the kick in the pants, or the inner strength, to create those changes that would otherwise go unchanged.
Soulmate connections are rare and you don’t have hundreds of them to choose from. Just because you have a strong pull towards someone does not mean they are your soulmate. That pull could just be a strong physical chemistry, which is often confused with a soulmate connection. Although soulmates have a strong physical chemistry, not all couples with a strong physical chemistry are your soulmate.
You may be strongly attracted to someone because something is missing in your life, and that part of you has remained dormant for a long time. When it awakens it can feel really powerful and shake your life up. Does that mean they are a soul mate? Not necessarily. It could just be a strong attraction you have to something that you lost, or never had. There can be many instances where you meet people you feel a strong attraction to, a crush on, love, infatuation, or have special feelings for. They won’t all be soulmates, and it is important you don’t put the soulmate label on the wrong person.
Check our other article: Stop Trying to Make the Wrong Person Your Soulmate
Many people are shocked by the strong connection when they first encounter their soulmate. They are shocked by the emotions they feel for their soulmate because they have never experienced emotions like that before. They can even be shocked by the sexual experience they have with their soulmate. It doesn’t matter if they believed in soulmates beforehand. It doesn’t matter if they have been longing to meet their soulmate for years. You never know until you meet a soulmate what it really feels like. And for some, those thoughts and feelings are quite shocking. Many people react badly to soulmate shock, and the results of that shock can be devastating.
When soulmates first meet, the couple may react organically. They don’t think too much about what is happening, they go with the flow. Since the connection is there, the first stage can be straight out of a romance novel. Things are going great, they communicate beautifully and openly, and everyone is in a state of total bliss. They are shocked at how easy it is to talk to one another. They are shocked by how attracted they are to one another. They are shocked at how comfortable they feel around one another. They are shocked by how mind-blowing the sex is. They are shocked how similar they are. They are shocked by the way they feel about one another. Shocked in a good way.
But then the mind kicks in. Now they are shocked by the intense emotions. They shouldn’t feel this strongly so soon. They are shocked that they can’t stop thinking about their soulmate. Are they going insane? They never obsessed like this before, so why now? They are shocked that they opened up about their true feelings. Was that wise? Should they rein it in? They never spoke about their feeling like that before, it is as if they are becoming a different person. They feel they are losing control of themselves. They are shocked by how attracted they are to this person they just met. They wonder if it could all be just a physical thing, and not real. Should they see this person less, or stop seeing them all together? Now they are shocked in another way, in a bad way.
You would be surprised how often this happens. When the mind tries to make sense of emotions, or tries to control them, everything goes haywire. It cannot be explained with just logic. Feelings and logic are two different things all together. What you feel is not always logical. So when people try to make sense out of what they feel, they often find themselves even more confused. With that confusion often comes very bad decisions.
Most people feel as though they have gone a little crazy when they meet their soulmate. It’s easy to understand, especially if you have been through it yourself. We have been taught to control our emotions, actions, and our minds our whole lives. We are not allowed to let our emotions get out of control. So when soulmates meet and emotions spill over, some people feel the need to get a grip on them. You are supposed to welcome and enjoy the connection you have with your soulmate and all that comes with it. Once the shock wears off, you should feel blessed and thankful. Instead, many feel cursed, fearful and as if they have lost their minds.
Soulmate shock affects all people differently. You and your soulmate may have opposite ways of dealing with that shock. In time, you can get back on the same page, but in some cases, the shock never wears off.
We post many soulmate quotes to our Soulmates Page on Facebook but thought it would be nice to post our favorite soulmate quotes on the blog. Did we miss some of your favorite soulmate quotes? If so we welcome you to post them in our comments section. Thank you and many blessings on your soulmate journey. ~Sarah and Sophia
Important encounters are planned by the souls long before the bodies see each other. ~Paulo Coelho
Happy is the moment, when we sit together, with two forms, two faces, yet one soul, you and I. ~Rumi
Love is no longer where soulmate attraction ends; it is where soulmate attraction begins. Karen Black
There is nothing better on this earth than a soul you can connect with on every level
A soul mate is not found. A soul mate is recognized. ― Vironika Tugaleva
Between two souls lies a single heart ~Maza-Dohta
In the vast expanse of infinity our souls come together and connect for a moment in time.
And then my soul saw you and kind of went “Oh there you are, I’ve been looking for you”
My soul and yours are the same. You appear in me, I appear in you. ~Rumi
Love is a meeting of two souls, fully accepting the dark and the light within each other.
Unfold my soul and you will find your name written on every petal ~Maza Dohta
A soulmate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. ~ Richard Bach
A soulmate is the one who will make you the most YOU that you could possibly be.
I have crossed oceans of time to find you.. ~Bram Stoker
“A soul mate is someone whose way of viewing life is not necessarily the same as yours but complements yours, so that there is not a compromise, there is a complement.” ~Paul Robear
A soul mate represents a karmic relationship that we have resolved: a deep conflict that has been settled, an obligation that has been fulfilled, and love that has replaced fear and anger.~Linda Brady
We do not choose who we love but rather, our souls choose for us.
A soulmate is the one person whose love is powerful enough to motivate you to meet your soul, to do the emotional work of self-discovery, of awakening.~ Kenny Loggins
Soul mates are locked at the heart and written in the heavens, promised to find one another when the time is right.
The soulmate is what we aspire to and like to understand about ourself, is what we deem to be perfection, purity, and endless love. – Sorin Cerin
Many times we are asked “How can I meet my soulmate?” If we believe in a truly limitless Universe, we must consider that the way our soulmate can enter our lives is limitless. Soulmate relationships are not something we create or find. Soulmate relationships are somewhat predestined or preordained, as a result of the karmic experiences we agree upon before being born. Soulmate relationships are not something we can seek while here on this earthly plane, but rather people who find each other when the time is right, as written in your soulmate contract. So it’s not so much a question of “How can I meet my soulmate?” but what is the Universe doing to bring them into your life.
When deep down in the core of your being you believe that your soulmate exists, there is no limit to the ways he or she can enter your life. ~~Arielle Ford
There is no How Can I Meet My Soulmate club or website. In reality there are not any meditations, visualizations or other metaphysical gimmicks you can do to draw your soulmate to you. You will either meet them in this lifetime… or you won’t. Remember this is something you agreed to experiencing before you were born so a soulmate relationship may not necessarily be part of you soul blue print for this lifetime. Please remember though that DOES NOT mean you will not have a fulfilling, connected, romantically intimate relationship for this lifetime. Actually, you may be better of in a romantic relationship that is not a soulmate relationship as it will not come with the challenges and difficulties associated with a soulmate partnership.
Now all this is well enough said but is there anything at all you can do to meet your soulmate? There are a few things that need to be in place for that soulmate connection to manifest in the earthly plane. First and foremost you need to be working on yourself. By this we mean not just floating through life and reacting to different things that happen to you. You must be focused on yourself. You must be growing, personally and spiritually and you must be taking a proactive approach to the evolution of your soul as you live on the planet.
Soulmates tend to find each other during their respective pursuits of their soul missions. ~ Linda Brady
Now we don’t mean that you need to involved with saving all sea lions or volunteering to feed the hungry children of Africa, although these are both worthwhile endeavors. We mean that you have to be focused on you and your soul’s growth. In other words, focus on why you are here on the planet, whatever that may be. For when you are doing this you are in perfect alignment with your soul blueprint and placing yourself in optimal positioning to meet your soulmate. Work on yourself. Work on your personal and spiritual development. This allows the Universe to see that you are working on your soul path and actually ready to have a soulmate encounter and experience.
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