Many people believe a soulmate relationship is everlasting and that they will stay together. They believe the connection between soulmates cannot be broken. There should be no reason to ever end a soulmate relationship, right? Soulmates are destined to be together forever, aren’t they? What could possibly be a good reason to end a soulmate relationship? Since it took so long to find our soulmate, why on earth would we let them go? How could that you both in the long run? Sometimes it may actually be necessary to end a soulmate relationship.
10 Reasons to End Your Soulmate Relationship
1. If your soulmate has another relationship they won’t end, it may be time to end yours. Your soulmate connection is supposed to enable you to leave bad situations. This works the opposite for some soulmates, however, and actually enables them to stay in a bad situation. This is not honoring your soulmate connection. It may be up to you to put your foot down and let go of your soulmate for a while to allow the other relationship to run its course. Then your soulmate can come back to you single and without the excess baggage of another relationship. Let’s face it, the drama of the other relationship cause friction and problems between the two of you anyway.
2. If your soulmate has pulled a runner and won’t see you or communicate with you, it may be wise to let the relationship end for now. That does not mean they will not return. Chasing them may actually have an adverse affect. You may need to let go of your soulmate for now until they are ready, willing and able to engage in a relationship with you again.
3. If your soulmate comes and goes and your relationship is on again off again, it may be time for you to end the relationship. You don’t want or need an on again off again relationship. Your soulmate, for whatever reason, does. Stop being a part of the relationship that they want. Until you do, you may never get the type of relationship that you want.
4. If your soulmate is addicted to alcohol, pills or whatever and it is affecting your relationship, it is time to end it. You can’t make a relationship work under those conditions. They only thing you are doing is allowing bad behavioral patterns to cement themselves within your relationship. Then, even if they do conquer their addiction, the bad behaviors remain. Walk away and end your soulmate relationship until they seek help for their addiction.
5. If your soulmate keeps sabotaging your relationship, it may be time to end it. If your soulmate picks fights with you all the time and makes every little problem bigger than it should be, end it. Putting some space between both of you make give your soulmate the wake up call they need. They are abusing you and the relationship and they need to have a healthy fear that if they don’t knock it off it will end.
6. If your soulmate has a toxic relationship with his friends or family, you may need to end your soulmate relationship. If their influence is making your relationship toxic, you need to step back. Your soulmate needs to get some control over his relationship with his family and friends. Until then, they will keep damaging your soulmate relationship.
7. If your soulmate won’t commit to you or give your relationship a fair chance, it may be time to end it. Your soulmate may keep saying they are not ready for a relationship. They may be seeing other people and won’t be monogamous. This is keeping you from building a real relationship with them. Your soulmate may be doing this only because you are putting up with it. It may be time for you to call their bluff and end your soulmate relationship.
8. If your soulmate refuses to open up about his emotions, the time might be right to end your relationship. They may be treating you like a booty call or friends with benefits. They may swear up and down they don’t feel the same way about you that you feel about them. You may know deep down that it’s a lie because you can feel the connection. Ending your soulmate relationship may be the only thing you can do to get them to admit their true feelings for you.
9. If your soulmate won’t let your relationship go to the next level it may be time to call it quits for now. The only way for them to get over their fears of getting more serious could be the chance they will lose you for good. If you have been waiting and waiting for a more serious relationship, it might be a good time to give them an ultimatum and follow through with it.
10. If your soulmate relationship isn’t really working and is too complicated and dysfunctional, bow out. If you feel you have done all you can it may be time to walk away. You don’t have to end it forever, just until they are willing to put in the effort to allow the relationship to work. You cannot do it all by yourself.
Although soulmate connections may last forever, soulmate relationships don’t. Sometimes the best thing you can do for yourself and the relationship is to end it. A permanent ending to a dysfunctional soulmate relationship clears the way for the two of you to rebuild a new healthy relationship with one another.
If you are in a relationship with a narcissist you living in hell on earth. A narcissist is someone who constantly belittles you at the drop of a hat. A narcissist makes you feel like a peasant while he is the king of not only his domain but yours. You spend every waking moment catering to their every wish, while all your wishes never come true. A narcissist doesn’t care about your wishes, hopes, dreams, feelings, judgment or needs. A narcissist only cares about their own, and so should you or you will be sorry.
You may try to keep the peace, but with a narcissist, peace is impossible. They create standards you can never reach, so you will fail again and again and it is up to them to dish out your punishment. And dish it out they will. Since you are all alone with your thoughts and feelings and are unable to verbalize them or exhibit them, you will feel like a robot, and a very lonely robot to boot. How did someone so promising and charming hide the fact that they are a narcissist? How did you not see this coming?
A narcissist is always different in the beginning of a relationship, way different. They come across as prince charming, sweep you off your feet and place you on this pedestal and treat you in a way you thought only happened in fairytales. Once you have fallen under their spell, a narcissist then lets his facade crumble. Not to the outside world though. Just in your personal life. They maintain their image for all the world to see, but allow you to see what is behind the mask, and it is what nightmares are made of.
A relationship with a narcissist is a one way street. The street leads towards them, and away from you. When you are in a relationship with a narcissist you must constantly cater to them and build and maintain their inflated ego and sense of self. At the expense of your own self esteem, dignity, and ego. Compassion will rarely be given to you by a narcissist, but they expect and demand it from you.
The term “double standards” is perfect to describe a relationship with a narcissist. It is all about them, and has nothing to do with you. They get the praise, you get the complains and reprimands. They have the say on everything, you are afraid to say anything and better keep your mouth shut. If they are not happy, you will not be allowed to be happy either. A narcissist doesn’t care about your happiness, they are only concerned with their own. Since narcissists are so in love with themselves, they cannot really be capable of really loving you because they can never put you first. Sure, if you try and end things with a narcissist they may go overboard to get you back. But is it really because they love you and will change? No, it is for their own ego, they do not want to be abandoned. THEY can leave YOU, but you cannot leave THEM. So how do you know if you are involved with a narcissist as a friend, lover or family tie?
A narcissist has an over inflated ego and thinks they are above others and look down on everyone else they deem not up to their standards. Because they are special, rules do not apply to them. To everyone else, yes, but to them, no. A narcissist has delusions of grandeur. They are not ordinary so why should they have an ordinary wife, ordinary kids and ordinary job or an ordinary house? That may be good enough for “other people” but not for them. They have a sense of entitlement like no one you have ever met before or since. They think other people are jealous of them or out to get them.
Narcissists feel you should be able to take criticism from them, and they will give it to you constantly. However, you cannot criticize them for ANYTHING. They will also twist your words and take things you say in a critical way when you did not mean it that way. They will have temper tantrums when they are unhappy over any little thing. Narcissists will keep you guessing,. One day they act like all is wonderful and they adore you, the next day, they are as cold as ice and treat you like a stranger or an enemy. A narcissist cannot sympathize or empathize with anyone other than themselves. Other peoples feelings, unless it is to get what something from them, are irrelevant.
If you are in a relationship with a narcissist the thing that you may need to learn from this situation, more than likely, is how to walk away from it and gain your personal power and freedom back. Sarah and Sophia will help guide you back to your path and give you the encouragement you need to create the changes you need in your life.
If you find that your soulmate is emotionally unavailable, it will be very frustrating. Contrary to popular belief, just because someone is single does not mean they are emotionally available for a relationship. Just because someone is single does not mean they want to have a relationship, especially one that comes with the deep connection of soulmates. Not everyone will be searching for their soulmate or romantic partner at all during this lifetime. They may be in a different place than you in their evolution and only want a casual relationship. There are also people who have absolutely no intention of being monogamous, although they may say they are, who will never be emotionally available for you. There are many reasons why people will not be emotionally available for the type of relationship you are looking for.
It is not always easy to spot an emotionally unavailable man or woman. They may present themselves in such a way that you believe they are ready for love. Everything may even be progressing along nicely, you spend time together and he or she may really be pursuing you…and you like it. You have been hesitant with your feelings and keeping them in check, but they insist you are the one. They may even talk about your connection. When you finally give in, allowing yourself to open to the emotional bond that is forming, out of nowhere come the signals of the emotional midget. They withdraw, they pull back, they start to cancel dates or fail to respond to calls and messages. You are more confused than ever because they displayed the signs of being emotionally ready, but the instant you open up the walls go up and the lines of communication go down. When the possibility of a real relationship became a reality it was more than they could deal with on an emotional level. As long as it was an idea, it was ok, but the reality of it caused them to bolt.
Before you invest your heart in a relationship, you need to make sure you choose an emotionally available person. Here are some signs of someone who is emotionally unavailable so you can spot one quickly, before you are in too deep:
1. If they already have a significant other (husband, wife, boyfriend or girlfriend) they emotionally unavailable. If they are not divorced or broken up with their current romantic partner, they are emotionally unavailable to you. No ifs, ands or buts about it. If they are separated or broken-up with their significant other, but still live together for ANY REASON AT ALL, they are emotionally unavailable and off-limits to your heart. When you live with someone you cannot give someone else 100% of you, no matter how hard you try. You will never get all they have to give because they are not available enough to give it to you. Even though they say they do not love their other person. Even though they say they love you. Even though they say they are not having sex and sleep in separate bedrooms. Even though they insist you are their only sexual partner. As long as any fragment of that relationship is intact, either because they are living together or waiting for the legalities of a divorce to come through, they are not fully emotionally available to you.
2. If they are hard to reach and disappear for days, weeks or months, without warning (or explanation) they are emotionally unavailable. If they want to get closer to you, they would keep your communication steady and reliable. You would talk about deeper things than sex, the weather and your jobs. They would use that communication to learn more about you and give you the chance to learn more about them. If trying to get them to talk is like pulling teeth they are emotionally unavailable. If they are constantly unavailable when you call, text and email, the same rule applies. If the only way you communicate is through text, you both need to grow the hell up. If they don’t make communication with you a part of their life, they are unavailable to make YOU a real part of their life.
3. If your relationship has no labels, boundaries, or definitions, you are with someone emotionally unavailable. If you do not know if you are their girlfriend or boyfriend, or if they want a girlfriend or boyfriend, the one thing you should know is they are emotionally unavailable. If they refuse to talk about feelings, where you fit into their life, where this relationship is going, if you are even in a relationship, then you need to run as fast as you can from this emotional midget. If their words and actions do not support each other, then you are with an emotionally unavailable person who is sending you mixed signals and has an agenda.
4. When you are with a someone long enough, the relationship develops a pattern. You talk once/twice/three times a day, see each other every “X” amount of days, and know you will see and hear from them again. When you are with someone who is emotionally unavailable, at the end of each phone call, you have no idea when you will speak to each other again. After you part company, you wonder when and if you will see them again. This is not normal and is unacceptable. If you cannot begin to depend on them to call and make plans to see you, they are emotionally unavailable. If you cannot depend on them to answer the phone when you call with an emergency, they are not emotionally available to you.
5. Someone who is single, but has not dealt with issues of a past relationship should be emotionally off-limits to you. These folks could still secretly be in love with their ex, or they tell you all about it ~ ALL THE TIME ~ when you are out together. They have not resolved their feelings from their last relationship and could be using you as the rebound to help get over the ex or they could be treading water with you in the hopes the ex will return to their life at some future point. If they tell you they can’t open up to you because they are still resolving the issues of their last relationship and then proceeds to tell you (with tears in their eyes) the gory details that led to the relationship’s demise, they are still emotionally attached their ex and not available for you. You will not be able to rescue or save them from the horrible creature who did this since they are still emotionally attached to that past relationship.
So what do you do with an emotionally unavailable soulmate? How do you handle the relationship? Bottom line is they will not be there for you. You may believe if they heal from a past relationship you can sit tight and wait it out. Honestly, it is not in your best interest to do that WITH them. No amount of love you show or things you do will be able to crack the steel drum around their heart. You can not fix or heal them. It is not your responsibility anyway. You may want to be there so when he does heal his emotional issues you are the first one he turns to. Bottom line though is that if you made that great of an impression anyway, he would come to you when he is ready for love again.
Loving an emotionally unavailable soulmate is very draining because you are doing all the work. They are doing nothing. You are giving and not receiving anything. You can only do that for so long until all your reserves are gone. Sitting back and hoping for change is not going to fix this dysfunctional relationship. We all want to do the best we can to not be shocked, disappointed or hurt in our relationships. The best insurance we have to prevent that from happening is to choose wisely and an emotionally unavailable soulmate is not a wise choice.