Is your soulmate relationship driving you crazy? There are many people who sadly allow their soulmate to drive them crazy when it really can be avoided for the most part. The best way to keep your soulmate relationship from driving you crazy is to keep the faith. If you really believe you have found your soulmate, and that you have a connection, keep the faith that you will get through this with the universe’s help.
If you begin asking yourself questions like, what is your soulmate doing, are we even soulmates, then you don’t really have faith, do you? If you don’t have the faith needed in your soulmate relationship, how can you expect your partner to? When you lose faith in what you have, you lose the power you need to get through the bad times. Soulmate relationships have a lot of challenges, and you have to draw strength from the connection you share, not break it down. Even if your soulmate is the one doing the damage, make sure you don’t join them.
You shouldn’t be driving each other crazy, or letting the soulmate relationship drive you crazy. You should just chalk it up to the fact these relationships stir up things within us that need to be addressed. Look at what the universe is showing both you and your soulmate. Separate the lessons. Don’t be so busy worrying about whether or not your soulmate will learn theirs that you are not addressing your own. When you avoid learning yours, you enable your soulmate to keep on driving you crazy.
Let’s say your soulmate pulls a disappearing act now and then. First, look at the lessons you both could need to learn. Your soulmate’s could be that they have to face problems and not run from them. Yours could be that you have to set and enforce boundaries so that your soulmate needs to understand they can’t keep doing this.
Without you learning yours, how can they learn theirs?
You actually make it harder for them to learn theirs if you don’t learn yours. If you prevent your soulmate from learning their lesson, your behavior contributes to their craziness. So, time to educate and empower yourself. If you do that, you set the wheels in motion for them to rise to your level.
Don’t let crazy behavior make you question what you know to be true. Don’t obsess as to the why and the how they could behave this way. Just chalk it up to them acting crazy, and let them do it solo. Let them work through what they need to and keep yourself sane. You know the truth. You know your love is real and your connection is real. When they question it, they act crazy. When you question it, you will act crazy. There is no way that two crazy people can have a sane relationship, so stop it.
You may need a bit of a pep talk every now and then, but don’t talk to people who you know will be driving you crazy. Keep a level head and do what you need to do, and chances are your soulmate will do the same. Regardless of how long it may take, you will get through the process a lot easier if you stay sane than let it bring you to your knees. You may not have a choice as to how long it can take for your soulmate to get their act together, but it is your choice how you handle it, and what you do while you wait it out.
Does your soulmate act like a child? Are you tired of feeling like you have a child you have to cater to rather than an adult you can depend on in your relationship? Is your soulmate rude, or even nasty to you for no reason? Does your soulmate act like a child and resort to behaviors like being spiteful, vindictive or immature when they are upset or don’t get their way? Does your soulmate act like a spoiled child and want the entire world, and your relationship to revolve around just them?
If your soulmate does things on purpose to provoke an argument, or make one worse, it’s time you put a stop to this behavior. You cannot allow someone who acts like a child to be in control of your relationship or they are going to ruin it. Sometimes, in soulmate relationships, you have to resort to tough love. When you are with a soulmate, it stands to reason you want to show them love and support. You don’t want to have to call them out or create conflict, but sometimes you have to make an effort to fix the problem. You should know when you are at a crisis point in your relationship and you need to act aggressively, not passively, at that point. Being passive isn’t going to get you anywhere, and it won’t get positive results. It will just enable your soulmate to continue to act like a child.
A child, not an adult, goes way overboard when they don’t need to. When you smile at a waiter or waitress, your adult partner should not fly into a jealous rage. It will not cause an them to start making nasty comments towards you just because you were being polite or civil to a member of the opposite sex. Jealousy and insecurity are not excuses for adults to behave like children. You shouldn’t be breaking up every time they fly into a rage for no good reason.
If you can’t talk to your soulmate and express yourself for fear they will get upset and go crazy, then they are acting like a child. Adult relationships have adult problems, and you need two adults willing and ready to tackle those problems. Putting your emotions on the back burner isn’t going to fix anything. If you feel you deserve an apology, then hold them accountable for that apology. Don’t smooth things over yourself, and don’t let them off the hook by using the amnesia trick either.
Don’t let sex be the only way they “fix” things. You should not forgive and forget what they have done just because some time has passed without an apology from them. Don’t chime in and apologize for your reactions to what they did either. Make them take responsibility and show remorse for what they have done wrong. Adults make amends when they are truly sorry and don’t keep making the same mistakes.
Your soulmate needs to act like an adult, handle their own finances and be able to stand on their own two feet. It is not your responsibility to take care of yourself and them. They need to pitch in and do the work neither of you want to do, rather than just wanting to play and have fun all the time. Running off to hang out with their friends or focus on their hobbies instead of doing the things they need to do needs to stop.
Don’t let your soulmate off the hook, it keeps them from growing up. It won’t be a quick fix, but there are a lot of things you can do when your soulmate acts like a child and you want them to act like an adult.
Soulmate relationships can often hit a dead-end, leaving the soulmates realizing their connection is going nowhere. There are many reasons this can happen. Without the change and personal growth a soulmate relationship brings, no forward momentum can be achieved. How can you tell if you are soulmates at a dead-end?
Reasons Soulmate Relationships Hit aDead-End
1. Soulmates will be at a dead-end when one or both soulmates are in denial. If either of you are too busy denying the connection exists, there is little room for growth and forward movement. It is hard, but you have to wait for your soulmate to accept the connection between the two of you. When denying a soulmates connection, the one in denial often resorts to horrible behavior. They may say and do terrible things in order to convince you, and themselves that it isn’t real. This can be a very tough period to go through.
2. When one or both soulmates are afraid to end their other relationship, the soulmate relationship is at a dead-end. There is nowhere to go when your soulmate is still tied to someone else. Waiting for a soulmate to have the strength, bravery or balls to end it is annoying at best. Sometimes, but not always, ultimatums, backed up by action, can give them the kick in the butt they need.
3. If your soulmate has a drug or alcohol dependency problem, your relationship will be at a dead-end. First the dependency issue must be addressed and dealt with before the relationship can move forward. It is not time to be an enabler.
4. If your soulmate constantly runs from you and your connection, this is a clear sign you have reached a dead-end. Your relationship is constantly ended before it can reach new levels. You wind up taking two steps forward and three steps back. You are not getting anywhere. Fix the on/off problem or you will stay like a hamster on a wheel getting nowhere fast.
5. Another sign that soulmates are at a dead-end is when one or both is resorting to soulmate sabotage. Constantly checking each others connection, pushing boundaries, and seeing how much you can get away with is a bad pattern. Someone committing soulmate sabotage should not be allowed to repeat this pattern, because it keeps you both stuck. They will never stop committing soulmate sabotage either. They are using the wrong methods to give them the security they seek.
6. The last sign that soulmates are at a dead-end is all about time. If your soulmate is always too busy to see you, talk to you, or text you (even thought texting will NEVER be enough to maintain a connection) your relationship is at a standstill. You both need to be present in the relationship for it to move forward. You also both need to be a higher priority in each others lives as well.
It is important you are able to see when a soulmate relationship is coming to a dead-end. There are things that can be done, approaches that can be taken to get your soulmate relationship back on course. Sarah and Sophia are here to help.
Does your soulmate play the victim all the time? We all have played the victim at one point or another, but does your soulmate have a victim mentality? Do you always have to apologize because you are blamed for everything? Are you tired of defending yourself because you can’t seem to do what’s right? If your soulmate is playing the victim too often, you may need to point it out to them. You may also need to change the way you react and respond when they go into victim mode.
For instance, your soulmate is continually making excuses for their poor choices or mistakes. People that play the victim do not like to accept personal responsibility for anything. It is always the fault of someone else, something else, or something beyond their control. They simply do not want to say “I screwed up”. When your soulmate does this, stop accepting their excuses.
Let’s say your soulmate is late for a date. If their excuse is that there was an accident on the freeway that caused them to be late, don’t just shrug it off. Instead, say “Well, we have all been caught in traffic sometimes.” You are at least letting them know this isn’t about THEM. Casually mention that the lesson learned here is to allow extra time in case of traffic next time. If they don’t like it, who cares. You are simply stating fact.
If your soulmate is constantly telling you about all the people who have done them wrong, don’t act overly sympathetic. Don’t feed into it. Why? Eventually you will join the ranks of one of those people. Keep in mind you are also missing the other half of the story. While there may be a slim chance that many people are mistreating them, more than likely they have played their part in all of it. Start turning the conversation to what they have learned from this experience. Point out that since this seems to happen so often they need to ensure it doesn’t keep happening. Ask them what they can do and what is in their power to take control of the situation. This at least brings the focus back towards them taking some responsibility, and you are not feeding their victim mentality.
If your soulmate keeps pointing out over and over all that you have done wrong (because they are holding grudges) try to put a stop to that too. Let them know that if you have forgiven them for their wrongs, it is time they let yours go to. If they don’t, they are holding your relationship back. Put the responsibility for that back on them. If you know you have done all you can to apologize, yet they won’t let it go, tell them they may need professional help if the relationship is to continue. Tell them at this point it is out of your control, you have done all you can, and although you wish you could help them, you can’t. They won’t like this at all. But it will be a huge step in teaching them that you are no longer going to be the bad guy all the time.
Remember, even soulmates can try to put the blame on you, but that doesn’t mean you have to accept it. Don’t let them always play the victim at your expense.
Stalking your soulmate though social media is becoming quite common. People stalk every photo, every like, comment and interaction. Many people set up fake accounts to stalk a soulmate online because they want to do it without anyone knowing what they are up to. They believe they will find valuable, pertinent information on their soulmate social media accounts. Many also believe they can discover what their soulmate is trying to hide on social media profiles.
In some cases, checking your soulmate’s social media accounts is not a bad idea if done periodically. In many other cases, stalking your soulmate through social media is an epic waste of time. It can actually do more harm than good, because so much posted on social media is simply not reality or the whole story. In many cases it can be complete lies. So are you really gaining anything by stalking your soulmate though social media? In most cases, you are not.
In most cases you are being both self-destructive and destructive to your soul mate relationship. If your soulmate left you for whatever reason, stalking them through social media is a waste of time. You may want to know what they are up to, but you don’t need to. The reason they ended your relationship won’t be found on social media, and it won’t be fixed by what you find on social media. They won’t alert their social media accounts that they are coming back to you before they let you know. The only thing you will discover on their social media accounts are the stupid things they are doing, posting and liking. You don’t need that information. You may want that information, but you don’t need it.
Do you really need to see the latest pictures of their family, friends, or dinner? No. But you want to, don’t you? Well, you need to stop. This is not what you should be doing during your time apart. During a soulmate separation you are supposed to work on your issues and address them, not live your life by watching theirs. It is counter productive and will get you nowhere. It’s also and epic waste of your time.
If they are not coming back, stalking your soulmate though social media keeps you from moving on. If they are, you have not done the work you need to do to make the relationship better. You have not evolved to a better version of yourself. All you are doing by stalking their social media is keeping yourself weak, over-emotional, and depressed. What your soulmate is doing with out you doesn’t matter. It only matters when they come back. If they aren’t in your life, don’t make your life revolve around them. Make it revolve around YOU.
If your soulmate is presently in your life, it is not a bad idea to randomly check their social media accounts. People like to stir up trouble, and someone may be out to get in the way of your soulmate relationship. So a periodic check here and there is no big deal. But if you are stalking their social media accounts getting pissed off every time their ex, or some other member of the opposite sex, has any interaction with them you need to stop. If they give you so much reason to be that suspicious or insecure you need to deal with those reasons, instead of spending so much time on their social media accounts. You will never solve the problem that way.
Social media often causes more harm than good in peoples lives. People tend to over analyze everything they see, and also believe it is somehow real. I cannot tell you how many times clients have told us they saw a picture of their soulmate smiling in a picture so they must be happy. Are you serious? Name one person you know that does not smile when their picture is being taken. Other than mug shots, everyone smiles when their picture is being taken, or attempts to look happy. So where does a smile in a picture mean squat? Apparently to those stalking their soulmate on social media is means TONS. Well, in reality it doesn’t mean a thing. So don’t believe everything you see on social media. Believe more in the words and actions of your soulmate. It all starts there. That is where your focus should lie. Stay away from the social media, and pay closer attention to the reality of your relationship.