When your soulmate needs to much attention, your life can become seriously unbalanced. The attention some soulmates seek is just not realistic if you plan to have your own identity, a job, friends, etc. When soulmates first meet, they often spend as much time together as is humanly possible. They can talk on the phone for hours a day, and spend all their free time with each other.
It’s great, it’s fun, but that level of attention cannot be realistically sustained without other areas of your life suffering. At some point everything you put on the back burner to spend as much time with your newly found soulmate will demand your attention again. You have to get your focus back at work. You have to have some time again for your friends and family members and you have to get back to your life.
Many soulmates freak out and see this as their soulmate is withdrawing. They don’t understand they are still a part of your life, and get upset that things have changed. It sounds very romantic to revolve your life around your soulmate, but real life isn’t a romance novel. Most people on earth have to work, earn money, grocery shop, run errands, exercise, and have “me” time. Some soulmates get resentful that you have pulled some of your attention away from them.
Explain to your soulmate that your feelings have not changed, you are just incorporating them into your life. You would love to spend all your time with them, but it simply is not feasible. Let your soulmate know that it is nothing personal and not to worry. Sometimes that is all it takes.
There are some soulmates who require too much attention, and that can be a big problem. A soulmate that needs too much attention will systematically, over time, get you away from all your friends. It will start out slowly, in most cases, and then suddenly you will realize that your friends aren’t calling you to hang out anymore because you said no too many times. Your friends may be estranged from you because of problems that suddenly occurred between you ever since your soulmate came on the scene.
The same thing can happen with your family members, including your own children. It was their goal all along to isolate you from them so they can have all your attention. They were jealous of any attention you gave to anyone else and had to have you all to themselves. You may have thought that it was because they loved you so much, and took it as a compliment. You were wrong.
This is about control, and not about love at all. It is manipulation, plain and simple. Yes, your soulmate knows you travel for work, and that is why they either cause drama right before you go away, or while you are away. It is to take attention away from your job. Yes, they know you have a deadline and have to get your work done or your boss will kill you, but they decided that it was time to pick a huge fight.
When your soulmate needs too much attention, stop giving it to them. Draw some boundaries and let them know this won’t work for you anymore. You need to stop giving in to them, and start standing your ground. If you want a healthy relationship they are going to have to accept what you can realistically give them. If not, you may have to force a soulmate separation in order for them to get how serious you are about this. A soulmate is supposed to add to your life, not strip everyone and everything else away.