Soulmates must be ready, willing and able in order for the relationship to work and overcome the obstacles ahead. Both parties, not just one, must contribute time, energy, and effort into making this soulmate connection the special relationship it can be. If only one soulmate is ready, willing and able, the relationship will become more and more dysfunctional as time goes on. Just like you can’t show up for a wedding without someone to marry, you cannot show up at a relationship by yourself and expect it to work out.
If your soulmate is pushing you away, won’t talk to you, or is with someone else, then remain on the sidelines until they are available. Live your life, do what you need to do for yourself, but don’t let your life revolve around theirs. Not until they are an active, productive part of yours. Both soulmates must be ready to become better versions of themselves. They must be ready to open themselves to the intimate connection that they have to another human being. They must be ready to change whatever they need to for themselves as individuals and for the relationship as well.
Both soulmates must be ready to face their worst fears, and rise above them. Until they are both ready, the relationship cannot be productive, only destructive. Both soulmates must be willing to drop their bad habits and the toxic behaviors they may have learned from past relationships. They must be willing to stop playing games, and become truly vulnerable. Both soulmates must be willing to stop making excuses, and to stop lying and come from a place of truth. Both partners must be willing to stop using their connection as a crutch to engage in undignified behavior or excusing undignified behavior.
Soulmates must both be willing to accept the connection they share and to not abuse it. They must also be willing to treat it with the respect and reverence it deserves. Both soulmates must also be able to have a relationship. They must be able to commit fully to only their soulmate. If one or both are already in a relationship, they must be able end that relationship rather than simply pursue an affair. They must be able to overcome their insecurities, and push through their self sabotage, and resist the urge to run from the feelings that overwhelm them. In soulmate relationships, the connection won’t create a healthy, happy, long-term relationship. What will create one is both soulmates being ready, willing and able to put in the work.