Why Are Soulmate Relationships So Difficult?
Soulmate relationships are difficult. Who said they would be easy? There is a misconception out there, somewhere among the masses, that soulmate relationships are filled with roses, candlelight dinners, long walks on the beach and talking (or god forbid texting) until wee hours of the morning. This is simply just not how it truly is. Soulmate relationships can be very difficult!
When you meet your soulmate, or find yourself in a soulmate relationship, you can bet it is going to be one helluva ride. So, fasten your seat-belt and hold on. There will always be an initial click when you meet your soulmate, similar to what some people call love at first sight. You may even experience a sense of disconnecting from reality in a way, as your two souls connect on the inner plains, while the two of you are smiling, chatting and flirting. As you look into each others eyes there is a feeling of destiny and sometimes even a knowing that this just might be THE ONE. And as I mentioned previously, hold on for the ride, because life lessons are coming!
Contrary to popular belief, Soulmate relationships are not ones where everything flows smoothly and easily. We attract Soulmate relationships into our lives to teach us valuable life lessons, to grow and to evolve so that we can become our highest, best SELF. It does not mean that Soulmate relationships are not fun, because they are. When you are with your soulmate in a romantic relationship, your energy is firing with all pistons loaded. You connect with your soulmate on all levels ~ mental, physical, emotional and spiritual. You will have a lot in common with your soulmate, you will like to do a lot of the same activities and be able to converse on a multitude of topics. You will also find other things that connect you. For instance, your grandmothers may have the same first name or birthday, one (or both) of your parents may have attended the same school, you may have similar cars or both love brussels sprouts. Whatever it is, you will find it.
Things will flow smoothly in soulmate relationships for a while with great communication, exciting dates and wonderful sex, but then without warning something will happen. Something bad. Something we like to call the Soulmate Crisis Point. It could be the loss of a job, a move to another location, a parent being ill, or god forbid, an ex trying to come back into the picture. Whatever the issue is, it will be challenging and one that requires you to both grow. And unfortunately that growth will undoubtedly come with a separation. Sometimes that spiritual growth will be together but sometimes you will have to be apart to grow as you assimilate that life lesson into your life experiences.
As humans we never learn valuable lessons if our lives are going on happy as can be and things flow smoothly. We learn from pain, like when we were small and burned our hands on the stove. If the challenge creates a split between the two soulmates there is a probability of coming back together again at some future point; however, it is possible that the situation is such that is causes you to end your relationship for good. And this will be difficult. There is no emotional, physical, spiritual connection like a soulmate connection. When you have had it and feel like you have lost it, you will feel empty because that soulmate relationship completed you and filled you.
It is now up to you to rebuild yourself. After losing a soulmate, this can take some time, so go easy on yourself. It is a good time to practice a lot of self-care. You will need to rebuild your emotional state, more than likely, and being around close friends and family is a good way to do that. On the other hand, perhaps you rebuild your self from spending time alone. You may find yourself mad at God, or the Universe. It is not really their fault though. You have to remember this is the blueprint you designed for yourself for this lifetime. You will not be able to see that in the beginning of the crisis, but eventually you will. Things in retrospect tend to make a lot more sense than when you are in the middle of the upset and chaos. Just remember, take one day at a time, it will take a while to heal. But you will love again.