Why Are Soulmate Relationships So Difficult?

Soulmate relationships are difficult. Who said they would be easy? There is a misconception out there, somewhere among the masses, that soulmate relationships are filled with roses, candlelight dinners, long walks on the beach and talking (or god forbid texting) until wee hours of the morning. This is simply just not how it truly is. Soulmate relationships can be very difficult!


When you meet your soulmate, or find yourself in a soulmate relationship, you can bet it is going to be one helluva ride. So, fasten your seat-belt and hold on. There will always be an initial click when you meet your soulmate, similar to what some people call love at first sight. You may even experience a sense of disconnecting from reality in a way, as your two souls connect on the inner plains, while the two of you are smiling, chatting and flirting. As you look into each others eyes there is a feeling of destiny and sometimes even a knowing that this just might be THE ONE. And as I mentioned previously, hold on for the ride, because life lessons are coming!


soulmate relationships are difficult

Soulmate Relationships are Difficult

Contrary to popular belief, Soulmate relationships are not ones where everything flows smoothly and easily. We attract Soulmate relationships into our lives to teach us valuable life lessons, to grow and to evolve so that we can become our highest, best SELF. It does not mean that Soulmate relationships are not fun, because they are. When you are with your soulmate in a romantic relationship, your energy is firing with all pistons loaded. You connect with your soulmate on all levels ~ mental, physical, emotional and spiritual. You will have a lot in common with your soulmate, you will like to do a lot of the same activities and be able to converse on a multitude of topics. You will also find other things that connect you. For instance, your grandmothers may have the same first name or birthday, one (or both) of your parents may have attended the same school, you may have similar cars or both love brussels sprouts. Whatever it is, you will find it.


Things will flow smoothly in soulmate relationships for a while with great communication, exciting dates and wonderful sex, but then without warning something will happen. Something bad. Something we like to call the Soulmate Crisis Point. It could be the loss of a job, a move to another location, a parent being ill, or god forbid, an ex trying to come back into the picture. Whatever the issue is, it will be challenging and one that requires you to both grow. And unfortunately that growth will undoubtedly come with a separation. Sometimes that spiritual growth will be together but sometimes you will have to be apart to grow as you assimilate that life lesson into your life experiences.


As humans we never learn valuable lessons if our lives are going on happy as can be and things flow smoothly. We learn from pain, like when we were small and burned our hands on the stove. If the challenge creates a split between the two soulmates there is a probability of coming back together again at some future point; however, it is possible that the situation is such that is causes you to end your relationship for good. And this will be difficult. There is no emotional, physical, spiritual connection like a soulmate connection. When you have had it and feel like you have lost it, you will feel empty because that soulmate relationship completed you and filled you.


It is now up to you to rebuild yourself. After losing a soulmate, this can take some time, so go easy on yourself. It is a good time to practice a lot of self-care. You will need to rebuild your emotional state, more than likely, and being around close friends and family is a good way to do that. On the other hand, perhaps you rebuild your self from spending time alone. You may find yourself mad at God, or the Universe. It is not really their fault though. You have to remember this is the blueprint you designed for yourself for this lifetime. You will not be able to see that in the beginning of the crisis, but eventually you will. Things in retrospect tend to make a lot more sense than when you are in the middle of the upset and chaos. Just remember, take one day at a time, it will take a while to heal. But you will love again.



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  2. Thank you for this article… Its made me feel more understanding of a relationship I had with my soul mate and why I can’t let go of the friendship. BB

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  4. Wow. This definitely has cleared some things up. It’s him. It was always him.

  5. This article is insightful, as I have been reading others as well. Other information advises that we have more than one soulmate, and I have only met one of mine. The trouble is, one of his exes, one I believe could also be another soulmate, continues to interfere out of mere selfishness, and he is drawn to her the same as me. However, what I have not been able to get him to understand is the same love he has for her is the exact same love I have for him. He loves her as much as I love him he loves me too, and I just realized even after out 2nd recent breakup after several months, he still holds on to tangible memories. He’s in denial of us because he’s been hurt too much, and I’m no saint. He’s not with her either. We are still friends but that love still resides. We are no longer lovers and he is trying to find himself. I need him back as my lover and more. How do I convince my soulmate to find himself and to travel on his destined path…together? I don’t want to be without him anymore. I’ve dated others to occupy and fill the void, but it’s useless and worthless “relationships”…I’ve stopped dating others and just vowed to myself and him just to be there, but I need to “be there”…how do I do this and get my soulmate back? Also, I keep having tormenting and haunted dreams, including sex dreams about him. What should I do?

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  6. I tried to post this question on your column without success. I am in so much pain right now!
    Tell me Michelle… is there such a thing as too much compatibility? Because I always believed my boyfriend and I were soul mates.
    My soon to be “ex” boyfriend and I, are in a very difficult situation right now. We have been together for almost 4 years now. It was not an easy ride, every time I tell myself that things are finally changing, there comes something else!
    I love him with all my heart, I know he loves me too, though I feel like he hates me nowadays. Our relationship is a difficult one. His birth date is 1966/02/10 mine is 1982/09/30 he is older than me.
    Then there is a Virgo lady (1973/08/25) in the picture who seem to be taking too much of his time. We have been fighting about it. Him denying it. Myself ending up with this other guy at work, him knowing about it then he was angry, he became vengeful, then he was distant. I could feel the pain so painful. He knows this guy but they are not close. I immediately ended it with this guy. The Virgo lady is also at work.
    Nothing happened with this guy it was totally a mistake which almost happened if I did not stop it!… His betrayal was more than once but still he feels cheated and deceived, probably because he is a man, and he has every right to be angry. He did not even bother to ask me what happened but I can see from his actions that its killing him! I think that is when I realized how strong his feelings are for me, but it was too late!
    Then he would wait for a meeting so that he can use the Virgo lady to pay revenge. It worked because two weeks ago I called him and apologized, but only for my side of story even though I did not mention anything about what happened, luckily he did not ask, and I did not say anything about what he did.
    At least I was able to control his attitude towards me. Though things are not 100% right now. What do I do? Will he ever forgive me, I am not even sure if he is a forgiving type – which is scary!
    Do relationships survive better when two people are not compatible astrologically? According to Chinese zodiac signs we are soul mates.
    Please help me understand this Michelle.
    There is part of me that does not want to give up on this man no matter how stressful the situation is right now. I cannot see my life without him being part of it. Please!!!
    Thanking you

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  8. So I lost my soulmate and want to give up don’t know what to do anymore .

  9. I has to put a restraining order on this relationship but I still sware he’s my soulmate. Do u know if it’s true? Help?

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