Are you too nice to your soulmate? Have you allowed your soulmate to do things and say things you would never allow anyone else to do or say? Are you being to nice to your soulmate by making excuses for them all the time? Are you using your soulmate status as a tool to excuse or minimize their bad behavior? How can you tell if you are being too nice to your soulmate?
Signs You are Too Nice To Your Soulmate
1. You use a mystical force as a way of excusing your soulmates behavior and your own. You do not make them responsible, or yourself, for what either of you do. You allow your soulmate to get away with bad behavior by making excuses for them. You blame the fact that your connection is so strong that you are unable to control yourself and therefore must put up with it or let them off easy. This is a total cop-out and will get neither of you anywhere, except head first into a dysfunctional soulmate relationship.
2. You allow your soulmate to call all the shots in the relationship. They can disappear for however long, leaving you wondering what the hell is going on. When they decide to come back, you think just telling them how much it hurt you that they did that and giving them a talking to is a worthy punishment. That is being way too nice, and all that is going to get you is repeats of the same behavior, taken to worse levels over time. The punishment should fit the crime. You are giving your soulmate probation all the time and they will not take you seriously.
3. If your soulmate wants to be the center of your relationship, by themselves, and you allow that, you are being too nice to your soulmate. Let’s say your soulmate wants you to wait for them to end their marriage because of their kids. They want you to understand where they are coming from and sympathize with their situation. They seem to forget how this makes you feel, and how this screws up your life. Sure, they may say they understand how you feel, but if they did, why are you the only one being understanding and making the sacrifices? We could see how someone going to jail would ask you to wait 10 years for them. But asking you to wait 10 years, or indefinitely, so they can carry on an affair with you because they think their children can’t handle a divorce? This 2016, they are not going to become serial killers or have a social stigma because their parents got a divorce. How come they don’t worry about their kids finding out they had a long-term affair while cheating on their mother? You are being too nice by hanging in there too long, waiting for your soulmate to be single.
4. If you are there for your soulmate whenever they need you, but they are nowhere to be found when you need them, you are being too nice to your soulmate. It is time they are shown what it is like to be you. Talking isn’t going to do it. Just take a page out of their playbook and stop being there offering support and whatever it is that they need. They will notice what you take away. So make them take notice. Make them earn that back by them giving back to you.
5. If you are the one that has to be the bigger person and always fix things between you and your soulmate, you are being to nice. It is not your job, especially if they are the one causing the problems. Stop treating them as if they have a gene missing where they cannot apologize. Everyone on earth can learn to apologize. Knock that excuse off already. Stop being so impatient for your apology because you are afraid you will never get one. That is an irrational fear for the most part, and an entirely lame excuse. They are not a child, they are a grown up and you don’t have to do everything for them. Let them learn how to have a better relationship with you and be an adult instead of allowing toxic, childish behavior to continue.
In soulmate relationships, there are certain rules that should be followed for a positive soulmate experience. Being too nice, allowing yourself to become a doormat, is not one of them.
Also check out our article: Doing the Wrong Things for Your Soulmate.