Self-Entitlement in Soulmate Relationships
Many times we see self-entitlement in soulmate relationships. Because of the connection between soulmates, quite often one, or both ,may have a sense of entitlement. When it comes to soulmate relationships, this often translates to one of the soulmates “getting away with murder”. Some soulmates think that no matter what they do or say, the connection will keep the relationship together. They rely on the connection between the two soulmates as a “get out of jail free card” and use it quite often. This is simply not true, and has cost more than one soulmate couple their relationship.
A connection does exist between soulmates, but at a certain point self-entitlement can create dysfunction and chaos. When the connection is used against one partner, the relationship becomes very one-sided. But what exactly is soulmate self-entitlement? It is the same thing as self-entitlement, but to a much larger degree, which of course, makes it harder to deal with.
When you have a soulmate it is very easy to feel as though your whole world revolves around them. This is actually quite normal. The problem is, when it revolves around only one of them, the other feels very left out. There has to be a balance in all relationships, including soulmate relationships, if they are going to work out in the long run. So be careful to make sure when you meet your soulmate that you do not go too far overboard and leave yourself behind. Allow your soulmate to do as much for you as you do for them. If they aren’t, you need to pull back on your efforts.
Self-entitlement between soulmates also occurs due to the extreme emotions involved in a soulmate connection. Anyone in a soulmate relationship experiences emotional highs and lows. So when soulmates have arguments, a soulmate with a sense of sense entitlement can hit below the belt. Way, way, WAY below the belt.
The things soulmates can do to one another, especially in the beginning of the relationship, are shocking. Not all couples go through this, but most soulmate couples do. Often one soulmate recognizes the connection right away and is more comfortable with it than the other. The other partner will act out, flip-flop, or even run. The soulmate who recognizes the connection often chases after them, and wants to talk to them about the connection to ease their mind. This rarely, if ever creates a harmonious relationship. What it actually creates is soulmate self-entitlement.
The one causing pain to other sees how much the other is putting up with and that they are always forgiven pretty easily. They then feel entitled to push the boundaries and repeat bad behavior. They begin to feel a sense of self-entitlement that no matter what they do to their soulmate, they will always be there for them. Bad idea. Real bad idea. This is NOT what you want your soulmate to learn. Why? Because any relationship without boundaries has no choice but to become dysfunctional down the road.
Nothing is more miserable than a dysfunctional soulmate relationship, so be careful. If you see that your soulmate relationship has self-entitlement issues, it is time to address them. Not by talking, but by putting your foot down and keeping it down. Action, not words, are the remedy for soulmate self-entitlement issues, so don’t bother having long discussions about it. Your words didn’t give them a feeling of self-entitlement, your actions did. So obviously that is what you have to change.