Maintaining a healthy soulmate relationship isn’t always easy and both parties have to make a conscious effort for the relationship to succeed. You cannot just put in the effort at the beginning stages of a relationship, you have to keep doing it throughout the relationship.
Communication is one of the key elements to maintaining a healthy soulmate relationship. You do not have to communicate constantly, but you do have to communicate consistently. You can’t have long periods of time where you barely speak and not expect the relationship to suffer. It is much easier nowadays to communicate than it used to be, so there really is no excuse not to have the time to touch base with one another.
We all have busy lives juggling our romantic relationships, our jobs, kids, and everything else. But if your priority is maintaining a healthy soulmate relationship you find the time for quality time together. Quality time is time not just spent doing things as a couple, although that is very important, but to reconnect and be a real part of one another’s lives. Maintaining a healthy soulmate relationship requires that each one take the time to find out what is going on in the other’s life, head, and heart.
Show an interest in what is going on with their career, how they are feeling, health wise and emotionally, and really to what they say. Be honest and get to the point. Don’t play games or use the silent treatment. Don’t keep things inside and just handle them yourselves. Share with your partner and allow them to share with you. It may be hard to learn to work as a team when you are so used to handling everything yourself but you have to try if it is going to work.
Fighting is a part of life, even in healthy soulmate relationships. Nobody is perfect, and everyone can be annoying sometimes. Just don’t let it escalate. Learn to let things go if they are little things, and learn to deal with them appropriately and constructively when they are big things. Have the goal of resolution to a problem rather than being “right” while the other one is wrong. The only real way to “win” and argument is to resolve it in a way that it didn’t create damage or hard feelings.
Maintaining a healthy soulmate relationship means maintaining healthy boundaries. Yes, that may bring about conflict but boundaries are there for a reason. Boundaries with each other and with other people are a necessary part of any healthy relationship. You simply cannot have a healthy soulmate relationship without healthy boundaries. Healthy relationships are more focused on the present and the future, rather that the past. The past is where you should have learned the lesson, the present and future is where you apply it. As long as the lesson is learned and is not being repeated, it is time to let the past go. If you want to maintain a healthy relationship you have to let past mistakes go and not hold grudges.
Healthy soulmate relationships don’t just create themselves, they are created by soulmates that have created one together. Make sure you are doing the right things in your relationship and not the wrong things to ensure is success.