Is your soulmate too controlling? Does your soulmate make a habit of controlling every aspect of your relationship? Having a controlling soulmate is pretty common, since many soulmates feel a bit out of control themselves.
Since some soulmates are uncomfortable when they are not in control of what they feel, and sometimes what they think as well, they seek control elsewhere. They may want to control what you wear, who you hang out with, and how much time you spend at work. A controlling soulmate wants to be in charge of everything and anything.
A controlling soulmate will try to keep you away from friends and family. They want to be the only influence in your life so they cut out your support system. They may even try to turn you against your friends and family, or make you choose between your friends and family or them. A controlling soulmate knows the right way of doing things, and the right viewpoints and opinions, and expects you to know that. They will try to force you to do things their way, and will even resort to being overly critical of things that really shouldn’t concern them in the slightest.
A controlling soulmate will also be in charge of when you are intimate, how much time you spend together, and what you do. They will punish you in some way, shape or form if things do not go their way and will make you feel guilty when you really shouldn’t. Everything a controlling soulmate does for you they expect gratitude and appreciation for, everything you do for them won’t really count.
A controlling soulmate will have no respect for your privacy at all. All relationships need to have transparency, but they also need to have trust as well. If you have given them no reason to suspect you of wrongdoing, you should be able to earn their trust and have a certain level of privacy within the relationship.
A controlling soulmate will also be a bully. They won’t take no for an answer, and will wear you down until you decide it is easier to just give in. They will also be your judge, jury and executioner. You will be presumed guilty rather than innocent, and will feel they must punish you for anything you have done wrong, real or imagined. If a waiter or waitress pays too much attention to you, somehow you will get the blame and the punishment as if you started it or encouraged it. They will criticize you openly or under the guise of “teasing you”. If you tell them you don’t like or appreciate it, they will tell you it is just a joke, get mad at you, or accuse you of being too sensitive. However, if you do it to them they have the right to be angry or hurt.
If you have a controlling soulmate, you have two choices. You can either let them control your life or take control back of your own life. Keep in mind they won’t want to give the control up without a fight.