Dating a soulmate after a divorce can bring up some baggage from past relationships. If you or your soul mate had a loveless or problematic marriage you may bring those fears into your current relationship. When people get married, for the most part, they don’t think their marriage will end in divorce. But it did. And now that they have met the love of their life, their soulmate, they are afraid it may be too much too soon.
Although their heart has run away with itself, the fears remain in their mind. What if this soulmate relationship grows distant or ends like their last relationship? Issues such as these are bound to rear their ugly head in one way or another if one or both sou mates have had a marriage end in divorce. It can even happen if the past relationships were very emotionally involved or long-lasting but marriage did not take place.
When you are dating a soulmate after a divorce, there may be a tendency for soulmate sabotage in an effort to keep the relationship from progressing. The closer the couple becomes, the greater the fear of getting hurt. The connection is so strong, and the feelings run so deep, but there is that feeling of it being too good to be true. They are waiting for the shoe to drop, and the wait is excruciating.
That is not the only challenges when you are dating a soulmate after a divorce. There could be children involved, and mixing children and new relationships can be tricky. Even adult children of divorce may not feel ready or like the idea of their parent getting involved with someone new. Your soulmate (or even you) could have a dysfunctional relationships with their children. Be sure to set some personal boundaries so you can manage your relationships with both your children and your soulmate. Make sure those relationships are both in a good place before mixing the two or expect nothing but disaster. It will be a transition bringing a new relationship into your family dynamics, but the healthier your relationships, the smoother the transition will be. At first, keep the relationships separate, and don’t be in such a rush to force everyone together.
Let your soulmate relationship develop in an organic way. Enjoy dating your soul mate. Too many people jump from dating right into a relationship very quickly, and they rob themselves of a magical, romantic experience. When a soulmate couple, or any couple for that matter, is dating it is often the most romantic time of their relationship. They enjoy getting to know each other, getting ready for dates, missing their sou mate when they are not there, and the butterflies experience during their dates. Why rush through all of that? Enjoy the newness, the excitement, and the getting to know one another journey. Don’t talk too much about your exes and your past relationships.
We know it is hard, but try to keep the relationship from moving way too fast. After experiencing the pain of divorce, rushing into another serious long-term relationship can make someone panic and freak out big time. Some people who have been divorced vow to never marry again, but you know what they say about soulmates : Never say never!!