Interference is soulmate relationships is very common. When a relationship comes with soulmate destiny, many are shocked by the amount of interference they encounter. In many cases the interference may actually be a lesson to be learned and dealt with.
For instance, let’s say one soulmate had a family that was very dependent on them and left them little time and room for a real relationship. Upon meeting their soulmate, their family may try anything to break the couple and stop them from seeing each other. They won’t admit they are being selfish, they will claim it is because they love them. The universe brought these two together to allow them to break the stranglehold their family is holding over them. Unfortunately, this can often result in a power struggle between soulmates rather than dealing with the real issue.
Instead of doing what needs to be done, they expect their soulmate to accept the unhealthy situation being forced upon them. Of course their soulmate can clearly see the dysfunctional family dynamics, but the other refuses to acknowledge and deal with it. Instead they will make excuses for them or even side with them. Many soulmates break up because of family interference. They often reconcile, but the family hasn’t changed, and the interference starts all over again. This crazy cycle will continue until the lesson is learned and appropriately dealt with.
Interference can also come from a soulmate’s ex romantic partner. The ex can behave improperly and try to cause a break up in the soulmate relationship. Exes can also encourage their children to interfere and cause problems for the couple. A soulmate that wants to sabotage their relationship will go back to their ex every time they encounter troubles with their soulmate.
Exes can often create an on/off relationship for a soulmate couple. The soulmate is probably not in love with their ex, nor having a problem choosing who they want. It stems from a larger issue and the ex is just a tool of sabotage. How a person deals with an ex when they are single is one thing, but when you get into a new relationship, how you dealt with an ex has to change. In any relationship, you should never let a dysfunctional relationship from your past interfere with your current one. Many soulmate couples encounter this type of interference in their relationships.
One partner could have a job that causes a lot of interference. What job may have worked for a single person doesn’t always work for a couple. They can use every excuse in the book as to why they have to devote so much time to work. It is a fact that no normal relationship can survive when there is no quality time given to the relationship. They may need the money to survive, but don’t they also need a relationship? Many soulmates believe they can survive work interference because of their strong connection. This is not true. A relationship needs both partners to be present, to create memories, and grow together. If they don’t have the time to do that, they grow apart.
There are many different types of interference soulmates can encounter, but if they stick together and don’t take it out on each other, they can weather the storm.
Can you have more than one soulmate in a lifetime? Even though a soulmate is a rarer find than many people believe, you can have more than one soulmate in a lifetime. There are many people alive on the planet today who have had experiences with multiple soulmates, as you all incarnate over and over again in different lifetimes. The same does not hold true for twin flames however, as there can only be one twin for each of us, if we ever encounter that person while alive.
For some, all of the soulmates have been romantic connections. It would stand to reason that if the universe brings you a soulmate, and the relationship doesn’t work out that they may give you another one. If you learned your lessons and made your changes, although your soulmate did not, you may be blessed with another soulmate connection. If you don’t learn your lessons, make your changes or only allow the relationship to bring out the worst in you, then chances are slim. You should have learned the first time, because their may not be a next time. Chances are you will find yourself repeating these lessons with dysfunctional relationship after dysfunctional relationship. And that would truly suck.
Some people have been blessed with soulmates both in romance and friendship. Take for instance, the character of Carrie in the show Sex and the City. Her romantic soulmate would be Mr. Big, but her friends Charlotte, Samantha and Miranda could also be considered her soulmates. Since soulmates are not always romantic relationships, you could have a soulmate in a friend, family member, or even a pet.
With friends, as opposed to romantic connections, it may be an easier relationship without as much drama. But there may be challenges and life lessons in soulmate relationships with friends and family members. You may have a friend or family member who helps you come out of your shell, do things you thought you would never do, or have experiences you never thought you would have. These people were brought into your life to help you become a better you. You my have fights and not speak to one another, but that connection always remains.
You may have several Aunts, but always felt closer or drawn to one much more than the others. Your family may speak of the “special” relationship you share. It could be that they are a familial soulmate. Not everyone has a big family or comes from one, but soulmates can give you friends that become like family members. A pet can also be a soulmate as well. There are many animal lovers that treat all their furry friends as members of the family. But quite often they have a special bond with a special pet. It doesn’t mean they didn’t love all their pets, it is just a different connection.
A soulmate is a unique bond and connection you share with many people in your life, but it doesn’t have to be a romantic one. It also doesn’t have to happen only once in a lifetime either as there is a very good chance you will meet more than one.
Losing your mind in a soulmate relationship can be an all too common occurrence. When these intense connections present themselves, many times one, if not both of you, can lose touch with your sanity and find yourselves losing your mind. Were you both completely sane when you first met but now things either of you do and say make you look insane? So how exactly do you begin losing your mind once you meet a soulmate?
Meeting a soulmate is often a mind-blowing experience. It can really shake you up and make them feel completely powerless and out of control. When soulmates feel they are losing control of their emotions, they feel they are losing control of their lives. This causes them to feel they are losing their mind, the degree of which will vary for each person.
Some soulmates will feel exhilarated, and in awe, at the depth of the love they feel towards someone. Others will freak out completely by the depth of love they feel toward someone. These folks are the ones we often see losing it in a soulmate relationship. When their emotions go haywire, the brain goes along for the ride.
When a soulmate loses their mind, they can really screw up the soulmate relationship. Some run for the hills. They block all contact and refuse to speak to their soulmate, usually giving them bogus excuse for bailing. Others will just simply disappear, often permanently, ghosting their soulmate instead of ending the relationship.
Other soulmates can turn to another romantic partner they don’t feel as strongly for. They find that person safer and easier to mange because they can control their emotions within the confines of a mundane relationship.
Soulmates can also create many problems, and tons of drama, because they are waiting for the shoe to drop. They figure this is too good to be true, so why not speed up the ending by sabotaging the relationship. There are also cases where some soulmates marry someone else!
The list of destructive things some soulmates can and will do if fall into this trap is endless. The other soulmate is put through hell, thanks to the insanity of their partner. It can literally drive them crazy too.
So what do you do when you, or your soulmate, begin to feel like you are losing your mind?
First of all, you must get a grip on your own mind. Don’t try to make sense of their craziness. That would be crazy on your part and also an epic waste of time. You cannot rationalize irrational behavior, so don’t bother wasting your time. Stop trying to understand the real reason they are doing this or that or why they said this or that. More than likely you can put it under the blanket of a soulmate freak out. That is the main issue, the day-to-day minor issues don’t matter, because they are all stemming from the same reason.
You handle it by trying to stay as sane as you can. If you let it drive you to a point where you are losing your mind too, you have lost the battle. Two people who have gone loony tunes are in no position to get a healthy, sane relationship going. All you will get it chaos and toxicity. So try to ground yourself and if your soulmate spins out of control, don’t try to control it or stop it. This is their battle to fight, not yours. It is time to sit on the sidelines, even though that is hard to do. You need to wait for the dust to settle. Once they have come to their senses, then you can both move forward together towards a happy relationship.
Soulmate sabotage happens all the time, for various reasons. Depending on the couple, one or both soulmates may sabotage their future relationship. Why, you may ask, would a soulmate commit soulmate sabotage? Many people are waiting patiently, and impatiently, for their soulmate. So why on earth, when they finally appear, would they sabotage this relationship and risk their future together?
There are so many reasons why soulmate sabotage occurs. The foundation of a soulmate relationship is supposed to faith, not fear. When fear, in all its ugly glory takes over, many soulmates will sabotage the relationship on purpose, in order to run away from it. Wether it is breaking up with a soulmate or being so destructive that their soulmate breaks up with them, the intention was clearly there. They want the relationship to end for whatever fear-based reason.
There are also many other soulmate couples who are behaving in ways that will ruin their relationship but engaging in soulmate sabotage. The difference is, these people don’t want the relationship damaged or destroyed. However, they fail to realize their behaviors are sabotaging the relationship. For those, we have written 10 examples of soulmate sabotage in an effort to bring awareness before things get too bad.
Top 10 Signs of Soulmate Sabotage
1) Having unrealistic expectations. So many people think soulmates are like couples in fairy tales. They meet, and then live happily ever after. Nothing could be further from the truth. Soulmates have important lessons to learn and hurdles to get over. However, sometimes a soulmate will have such high expectations that it is actually a form of sabotage. They expect their soulmate to be perfect. They expect they will never argue with their soulmate. They expect their soulmate to agree with them on everything. This is not reality, it is fantasy. Be realistic about your soulmate, otherwise you could be unknowingly sabotaging your relationship.
2) Being too passive, or always the peacemaker, is another way a soulmate can sabotage the relationship. You may think you are doing it for the benefit of the relationship, but in truth, you are not. We are all capable of saying I’m sorry, and we are all in the wrong sometimes, and need to accept that. It is not your job to keep your soulmate from growing and becoming a better person. That is more damaging than you think. You should have enough faith in your soulmate connection and your soulmate than you do.
3) Another form of soulmate sabotage is when you do not address problems, and fix them, before taking your relationship to another level. What was a problem while you were dating, will more than likely be a problem when you live together. That problem, if not corrected, will still be there if you get married or start a family. Don’t move forward with these problems. Deal with them and then move forward.
4) Focusing too much on chemistry and attraction, and not real compatibility, is another example of soulmate sabotage. Sure, the sex may be great and the chemistry intense, but that is not enough to keep you together forever. It is also not a way to fix your problems.
5) Being too melodramatic or a drama queen (or drama king) is an all too common characteristic of soulmate sabotage. Constant drama only causes long-term damage. It doesn’t make for long-term bliss. Get rid of the drama and don’t tolerate it. It has no place in a happy soulmate relationship, only a dysfunctional one.
6) Another example of soulmate sabotage is when you constantly break up over stupid, inconsequential things. That is totally disrespectful to your soulmate and the relationship itself. Your connection was a gift from the universe. If you bought someone a gift and they disrespected it, how happy would YOU be? Would you ever give them a gift again? Don’t be ungrateful for the gift you have it given, as that gift can be taken away from you.
7) Constantly keeping score is another great way to sabotage your soulmate relationship. How does feeling the need to constantly “one up” your soulmate create harmony? It doesn’t, so knock it off.
8) Always needing to be right is another top form of soulmate sabotage. You don’t need to always be right. You don’t always need to go out of your way to prove you are right. That is one of your soulmate lessons obviously. Take your ego down a notch before it’s too late.
9) Being too comfortable with your soulmate can sabotage your relationship. You may think you can do or say anything you want and get away with it because of your connection. Not so. Don’t give your soulmate the worst of who you are. They deserve the best, not the worst. Why would you treat anyone else better than you do your soulmate? How could you not think that isn’t a form of sabotage?
10) Being too needy, clingy, or not giving personal space or privacy is detrimental to your soulmate relationship. Being too needy or clingy makes a person feel smothered after a while. People that feel smothered feel the urge to break free. You should also trust them enough to have a respectful level of privacy. If you don’t, the reason for that distrust needs to be addressed.
Hopefully this will be a wake up call to some soulmates who are sabotaging their relationships without even knowing it and start using corrective action to bring harmony back to their relationships.
Competing for attention from your soulmate can prove very frustrating. You would think that a soulmate relationship would not leave you competing for attention, but quite the opposite is often true.
Due to intensity of the soulmate connection, many people think they bend the rules a bit. Breaking the rules in soulmate relationships can actually cause the relationship to fall apart. Because soulmates have a unique, eternal bond, many believe this connection can never be broken. They believe either consciously, or subconsciously, a soulmate will be extra understanding, and be there waiting for them regardless of the amount of time and energy they throw their way.
Since soulmates often prove their love in the wrong ways, it is easy to see how they think they can do anything and get away with it. So often soulmates put up with the wrong behaviors, so they can be taken for granted and mistreated in many other ways. Perhaps the reason you are competing for attention from your soulmate is because they know you won’t leave. If they are unafraid because there are no consequences to the lack of attention they give you, they figure why not do it?
When your soulmate has an attitude like this, there is no telling what kind of shenanigans they may wind up pulling on you and your relationship. Your soulmate should not put you in a place where you are competing for attention. You should not have to compete with their family, their friends, hobbies, work, or even a romantic rival. And you should never allow yourself to be put in that situation either.
You may be terrified to lose them and act on that fear. That fear causes your relationship to deteriorate. You reward their bad behavior by standing by them, being afraid to punish them, and therefore enabling them to continue with the lack of time they spend with you. They are immune to your feelings, because your feelings for them come first, with both of you.
If you revolve your world around them, then they are the center of the universe. You are no longer equals. You both took a spiritual connection and made it a dysfunctional one. The universe won’t save your relationship, because they didn’t trash it. Both of you created this mess and it is up to you both to fix it. You can’t repair your soulmate relationship by competing for affection, attention, or anything else.
In order for your soulmate to honor your connection, you must honor it as well. You need to hold them, as well as yourself, to a higher standard, not a lower one. If they want to lower their standards, don’t go down there with them. It will be even harder to rise from the gutter. Instead, challenge them with your higher standards. Don’t give in so easily to theirs! One of you is going to get what you want, and do either of you really want to destroy what you could have?
Soulmates don’t always get to stay together forever. Some can be in wonderful long-term relationships, but those soulmates rose to the soulmate challenge and raised their relationship standards. They did not lower them, at least not permanently. If you lower your standards, you may have a long-term relationship, but it will be full of chaos, drama, and dysfunction, which makes many of them wish a soulmate had never entered their lives.
Before you let fear be your guide, think things though, using your head, not your heart. Would you let anyone else get away with this? Do you really think it is a bad thing to say what is on your mind and tell your soulmate they need to give you the attention you deserve? Is there anything really wrong with expressing how their lack of attention has made you feel? Do you think you have a right to tell them enough is enough and it is time for a change? Isn’t that what you should be able to do in a healthy relationship?
In a healthy soulmate relationship, or any relationship for that matter, the two parties will make mistakes, but they work through them, and resolve them. They don’t focus on the competition, because that won’t fix anything. It is not the competition that is the problem. It is not any outside party, it is one of the two, and it must be fixed from within the relationship. Your soulmate is choosing to put their attention elsewhere, and it is up to you to show them they are making the wrong choice.